The Adverse Childhood Experience of Parental Alienation

On Saturday I presented at the Centre for Child Mental Health in London at the conference ‘Too much Pain‘ on the issue of parental alienation as a child mental health issue.  The subject is clearly one which resonated with delegates as many had questions to ask afterwards and we discussed the issues facing children and parents in the context of us having watched the film Resilience at the start of the day.

Watching this film made me realise that the experience of parental alienation is not just about children’s mental health, it is about the impact of their mental health on their physical wellbeing. In fact, at worst, it is a public health issue in which children who are alienated from a parent face the likelihood of having a shortened life expectancy of – wait for it – 20 years less than their peers.  Let me unpack that.

Resilience is a film made about a group of people in the USA who noticed that the people they were working with who had physical health problems, had many things in common in their childhood history.  One of those things was sexual abuse.  Another was being witness to violence and another was the divorce or separation of their parents.  All of these things were recognised anecdotally by this team as having an impact on the physical well being of patients and so they began a longitudinal study, to find out whether this translated into evidence.  What they found was shocking. So shocking that even they could not believe it at first.  Patients who reported adverse childhood experiences were likely to suffer from heart disease, cancer, diabetes and other life changing illnesses.  The risks for some were so high that it could be said that they reduced life expectancy by twenty years.

An adverse childhood experience is described as being an event or series of events in which a child is left to cope without the help of any other trusted and safe adult.  Sexual abuse, witness to violence, divorce and separation, removal of a child from a relationship with a parent they had a stable attachment to, all of these things are considered to be an adverse childhood experience which leads to higher levels of cortisol in the body and a traumatised response to the world which causes life long changes in the DNA.  Put simply, the child who has experienced traumatic events without any support from trusted adults, remains on high alert in the body and encounters life routinely as if it is dangerous to their wellbeing. Over time this impacts upon the cellular life of the body and the changes within lead to physical illness.  Add in the efforts of the growing child to self medicate the problems they encounter in the body, smoking, drinking, drug taking, addiction to gambling, driving at speed and more and you have an environment in which toxic stress causes irreversible changes.

The team who began this study, noticed that children were being brought to them with behavioural difficulties which their parents considered to be ADHD.  Instead of medicating these children however, the team began to educate parents and help children to learn mindfulness meditation and took them on woodland adventure days.  What happened was astonishing. The children began to respond to the support being given and learned how to switch off the trauma response in the brain sufficiently enough for their behaviours to change.  The team realised that these children did not have ADHD, they were traumatised children trying to cope with life the only way they knew how.

The parallels with the children I work with stopped me in my tracks.  Many of the alienated children who I see are said by their parents to be on the autism spectrum and indeed, when they are in the alienated state of mind it is easy to see how this belief arises. Alienated children are often mute or monosyllabic, they are often repetitive in their behaviours and they are difficult to predict emotionally. In addition they do not respond to the social cues given by others and can appear rude, difficult to deal with and are often described as living in a world of their own.  Those same children, when reunited with a parent, appear completely different. They are animated and appear to come back to life. Their faces no longer appear frozen, they are able to converse and discuss across a wide range of topics. They laugh and smile and show appropriate emotional responses such as empathy and compassion.  Could alienated children be exhibiting a trauma response I wondered as the film unfolded.  Without a doubt is the answer as the film showed that the loss of a stable attachment through divorce and separation, plus dependency upon an unpredictable parent concerned with their own needs first, is one of the most toxic traumatic childhood experiences a child can face.

The team in the USA who conducted this study talked about how, when they began this work they were laughed at and ridiculed and then opposed by people who said that the general population could not be asked questions about their childhood in case it made them  ‘decompensate,’ (break down psychologically).  The intimation clearly being ‘don’t go there‘.  One of the things that we have faced in our work over the past twenty years is the oft repeated ‘you can’t say that‘ in response to our assertion that divorce and separation harms children.  In one meeting, a leading researcher even told us, ‘well if you are going to say that divorce and separation harms children then you are actually promoting marriage and we can’t have that.’  Whilst this person shall remain nameless, her role in the feminist research community remains and it is this community, who for fifty years have controlled feminist policy around family separation who are the biggest silencers and the biggest mockers of anyone who is concerned about children’s mental and physical wellbeing in relation to divorce and separation.  I have always found it difficult to understand why people concerned with women’s rights find it so hard to consider children’s needs and experiences as being separate to those of their mothers, the clear reality is however that the way in which social policy has been shaped has been to consider children’s needs as being indivisible from those of their mothers.*  They are not. This film shows they are not. Removing children from relationships with a loved parent causes significant harm which is evidenced by one of the largest research studies of its type in the world.

As I watched how the team in the USA simply did what they did in the face of opposition and discovered the truth about the emotional roots of physical illness in the largely middle class community they were working with, I quietly determined that this would be the next part of my work in this field.  To raise to public consciousness, the fact that the adverse childhood experience of loss of a loved parent leads to a trauma response which creates significantly higher risk of ill health in adulthood.  Parental alienation is not simply a parental rights issue, it is not just a child mental health issue, it is a public health issue as well as a child protection issue. Protecting children from a trauma based experience in which they are helpless, is an urgent concern for us all.  Finding ways of shaping this message and putting it out into the communities concerned with children’s health and wellbeing is my next task.

I was left with a profound sense of injustice as well as grief and sadness for all the children whose lives have been blighted in this way, many of whom I recognise have suffered that trauma response which creates an ongoing challenge for them in daily life. I also felt however the stirrings of hope as I watched the way in which the research team had developed a wide range of helping responses to the problem. In communities where this work is taking place, violence in the community is reduced at a startling rate, familial relationships are ongoing rather than severed completely and referrals of children for medications for ADHD have dropped through the floor.  Mindfulness, outdoor activities, school initiatives where children are helped to talk about their feelings and worries about what is happening in their world from the age of four, perspective building so that children do not fall into being captured in the mind of parental ill health.  One great scene showed children writing letters to ‘Ms Kendra’ a fictitious character played by drama therapists who receive the letters and write back to the children as ‘Ms Kendra’ with help and advice and a listening ear.

What is clear is that children need and want to talk about their world and that when they do they use their own language of metaphor which can be a mysterious language unless you understand it.  Children who tell me that they are never going to daddy’s house again because he ‘put beans in the lasagne’ are telling me something about the things that they hear in their home and the meaning this has for them.  Daddy may well have put beans in the lasagne but did the child really care about that? No.  What the child cared about was that mummy didn’t think that daddy was feeding them right if he put beans in the lasagne and this and mummy’s heightened anxiety responses when the children arrive home, becomes translated in the child’s mind as daddy being unsafe because of the beans in the lasagne.  Pity this child who is responding to mother’s trauma based responses which come from her own childhood. Pity this mother who had no-one to help.  Pity this father who cannot protect this child.  And pity the family service workers who uphold this child’s trauma based responses and enable her to reject her father forever on this basis.

This film, for me, crystallised my purpose and my reason for doing this work.  Children’s right to an unconscious childhood which is free from trauma based responding has always been at the heart of my practice and that has been underscored for me ten fold this weekend.  One day this story of the adverse childhood experience of parental alienation and its trauma impact on children will be widely known about, I am making it central to my practice from now on to be part of the movement which brings this hidden issue to light.

I ended the weekend in Prague where I am, along with many European colleagues, looking forward to the first meeting of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners.  This group of people, many of whom will have an adverse childhood experience score of 6 or more (people in the helping therapies are well represented amongst those who have survived trauma based childhoods, the key is we have learned to overcome the impact through learning and developing healthy ways of being in the world, sometimes over decades of self care) and who as a result are more open to the reality of the concept of childhood emotional trauma as the root of physical illness.  I will share with them my views from the film as we discuss the need for self care and protection from trauma ourselves as practitioners.  What is clear to me is that we as practitioners, are working with a  group of traumatised children, who are coping the only way they know how, and who are using a language that not enough people understand.  As we plan to raise awareness, standards of practice and development of training models across Europe, central to our plan will be helping others to understand the language of the alienated child, the only language the child can use, the language first recognised and curated by Richard Gardner and the door through which the reality of what is happening to the child can be illuminated.

This is our major task.  This is our commitment to alienated children. This is the way that the scandal of how family services have been influenced by a feminist agenda which has caused children’s authentic voices to be silenced for too long, will be brought to public consciousness.

This is my project for the rest of my working life.

*I have, in my work over the years, received much criticism about my views about the women’s rights domination of the social policy around family separation in the UK.  I make no apology for this but I do know that because of the domination of this agenda, it can be easily construed that my views are somehow extreme or ‘anti-women’ they are neither.  I come from a background of working with gender equality in which I researched and worked with gender for Oxfam.  My work showed me that the feminist policies around the family through the eighties and nineties were designed to uphold the belief that women are disadvantaged in divorce and separation and that their needs come first and that children’s needs are indivisible from those of their mothers.  This approach, which has over the years, dominated family services, CAFCASS, social workers etc, has caused mothers as well as fathers to be pushed out of children’s lives and has caused children to lose a beloved parent because of the lack of real mental health skill and awareness in those who are supposed to help children in the family courts.  The voice of the child agenda, written in the shadow of feminist policy takes this further and analyses the needs of women and children in the framework of patriarchal advantage rather than in the framework of understanding their mental health and needs for support.  Thus the voice of the child, which is often the voice of the dominating and unwell parent, is taken at face value instead of being properly interpreted. The most tragic part of this, for me, being that mothers whose children say they don’t want to see them are considered as if they must have done something very very bad to cause this.  The lack of mental health training, lack of gender awareness and lack of understanding of how social policy causes particular outcomes in the lives of separated families continues in both service delivery and policy development in the UK.  It is of a particular concern in social work in that the interventions made in a social work model, burden the child with ‘choices’ they simply are not equipped to make.  Until the policy and practice around the separated family in the UK and around the world is understood in the framework of mental AND physical health and wellbeing, I will continue my critique of the failures of government and its agencies and I will consider those who carry out the work of such agencies without questioning this, to be complicit in the continued abuse of children. This film showed me why this is necessary, it showed me why speaking up matters, it gave me courage to keep going and saying it and doing it the way we know makes a difference for children.  One day we will look back at what we did to alienated children and ask why.

Until that day we press on.

23 thoughts on “The Adverse Childhood Experience of Parental Alienation

  1. We stand with you in that commitment Karen. It is all our responsibility to raise awareness of this and educate. To protect these children & their childhoods.

    Re the feminist-rights groups, I am a professional woman working in a predominantly male arena. I believe men & women can achieve equally. And I don’t believe I have suffered much, if any, sexism in the last 20 years.
    However, I completely see anti-father’s rights have emerged. How can a cafcass officer (male as it happens) who has only met the mother & the children, been prepared to form & vocalise his opinion BEFORE even hearing the father’s views & evidence? I find that very discriminatory, unprofessional & actually negligent. How can you provide an opinion without taking into account all the evidence? The culture in cafcass needs to change completely to re-train these officers to think differently & examine objectively.

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  2. Karen, Paul Elam did a talk with links on bordelines as parents and the affects on infants of distorted attachments and how the infant closes down under stress of bordeline/distorted attacments. There was also a video demonstrating the effect a bordeline has on an infant when the parent fails to attach and meet the needs of the child. The video actually shows the infant attempting to ‘reconnect’ with the disinterested bordeline parent whilst becoming more distressed at the lack of attentive response. It all runs parallel with what you are saying here and my own experience with joshs mum who was slow to attach and interact with Josh, there were more scowels than smiles coming from the maternal side when he was an infant. I seemed to threaten them by my willingness and readiness to attach and connect with him, with ease. I was actually concerned that his mum rarely spoke to him and interaction was sparcd and she seemed not to be attaching for the first 12mths, things got better when she moved out of her mothers and seemed to find it easier to connect with him, this could have been due to her mother’s hawkish interference, she seemed to care more about what the neighbours thought about her daughter having a child out of wedlock than what my lads essential attachment needs were.

    It was though I was from a different planet when I began airing concerns. Over the years they have made sure josh thought that too. Now the young man carries within him a compressed and damaged youmg boy. Inevitably at some point in the future the effects of the past will manifest, the truth is they already are doing as he walks down split polarised paths of servitude and disposability laid out before him, to keep their shadows and demons from crushing him entirely, left without a map or compass and no idea that things could be so different and so much better for him.

    Much love x


  3. Our parents are supposed to be guides out of the woods of childhood inadequacies, not lead us into the the blackest forests and leave us there. I was determined to get him looking up for the stars.. sometimes at a distance they are the only light xx


  4. Asian religious gurus have expressed disdain for the western use of the words marriage and divorce in the same sentence based on 2000-year-old knowledge. Now ACEs has statistically rediscovered the same in a form that is more acceptable to westerners. We are now realizing that even the most amicable divorce is trauma to a child. Eastern thinking remains that having a child is a minimum no-out 20-year commitment which dovetails into research that shows that humans do not complete brain development till age 26.

    Now the question is how far western societies willing to give up self-interests to give every child an “unconscious childhood” which is free from the blight of trauma?

    Are we prepared to go as far as to disallow divorce in the case of children until a child is over 20-years old and put resources instead into education and screening up front to ensure proper selection of a spouse? Perhaps this has to be phased in because western resolve cannot make this in one big step and needs smaller steps? Please accept this challenge for the sake of our children.

    My own April 2017 video interview with online media at in Dallas:

    Sadhguru’s Comments:


  5. I am an alienated father , textbook alienation , I have read your work , Dr. Childress, Dr. Warshak , on and on, and I have a degree in child development myself. One of the most frustrating issues in this fight , is the role of feminist, who oppose father’s rights. And up until this I considered the feminist movement to be a valuable movement. There are segments of this movement that I now realize are not good. Equal parenting , takes a powerful tool away from women in court proceedings , and because of this , many feminist see equal parenting as threatening . Another interesting development in this world , is coercive control. Basically , something that cannot be proven or disproven. False allegations of DV , while damaging , can eventually , usually , found to be false. Not to say that huge quantities of irreparable damage can’t be created by false allegations. But this new phenomenon of ‘coercive control’ is basically gas lighting for society. My narcissistic ex, now remembers how I mentally bullied her for years. And the world of feminist think that is great , as men have been holding women down for all of time evidently. However she came to this conclusion , after all of her other allegations were disproven . Convenient , right ! A lot of feminist , are willing to sacrifice the mental health of children to advance women’s rights. And the uneducated populous unwittingly supports them. I read a quote from a department of justice report recently, it said 2% of criminal reports are false , and 30% of domestic violence criminal reports were false !!! It didn’t address what the breakdown of the 30 % were. By that I mean how many of the false DV reports were created by men and how many by women . That would probably be a fascinating statistic to know. I bet I can guess who would have made more false complaints. Oh , and when I majored in child development in college , I was the only man in the program , I understand what it means to be discriminated against . in the building on my campus where the child development classes were taught, the only men’s bathroom was a converted janitors closet , as they initialed had not intend for men to be there at all.


  6. Its unfortunate that divorce has to be for a reason, other than its not working. Of course, the Red Mist is part of the emotional disadvantage within a relationship breakdown. Disappointed that you no longer are the object of being loved and needed. There could be a third person involved too. Hurt, and I always have felt emotional pain is like no other.
    So, unless new guidelines are in place getting things moving faster with support, these events continue. Hurt and hurting, that’s how I see the subject. Not talking, makes it worse.


  7. Am I correct in understanding that trauma to a young child also interferes with the development of the brain and neurons. I understood that it restricts learning and development!


  8. Hi Patrick
    I found your comments interesting, especially this one;

    …………My narcissistic ex, now remembers how I mentally bullied her for years. And the world of feminist think that is great, as men have been holding women down for all of time evidently. However, she came to this conclusion, after all of her other allegations were disproven. Convenient , right ! ………………..

    I don’t want to respond to this in the obvious way; that it is governed by gender driven narrative, but look at it purely as a gender neutral mental health issue.
    You despair that your Ex, having exhausted the long list of allegations against you then resorts to feminist propaganda to keep you away.
    She strikes me as someone who needs to be right.
    The longer you contest this she will continue to find ways of proving that it is her that is right and you that is wrong. She demands to be listened to and to be acknowledged.
    Recently I have had some success using a technique I borrowed from a Faber & Mazlish book. As you probably know these are essentially books for parents who have relationship problems with their children.
    In your case, you could argue that you are dealing with the child ego of your former partner. In this respect the emotionally intelligent techniques can be equally well applied to mature adults who exhibit impulsive, obsessive or child-like behaviours.

    It never ceases to amaze me that the standard treatment for someone who obsesses is to either:

    1. Give in, after receiving threatening behaviour from the person you are trying to help. It’s their choice! That is a Laissez faire style.
    2. Just say no, explaining all the obvious practical reasons why such action is impossible and ridiculing their attitude/opinion. That is a dismissive/ authoritarian style.

    Neither of these methods resolve the insistence in the mind of the person demanding that their obsession be sated. And sometimes the demanding behaviour can develop into uncontrolled aggression.
    The emotionally intelligent response would be to indulge in their fantasy, listen, be empathetic, but nobody trains carers in these more appropriate responses. These are good sound methods and I have used them to dissipate angry and demanding feelings that sometimes emanate from the mouths of obsessive people.

    The young man who demands yet another of the latest magazine depicting Superman on the front cover needs people to listen to him and talk about his obsession and share his view of the world. You may think he wants you to buy yet another copy of the same magazine, or visit the shop for the umpteenth time but the reality is that he wants to talk through the obsession in as many ways that you can think of………

    “Until when”, said John
    When? said George. For as long as he wants, eventually he gets bored when you out-talk him on his specialist subject.
    You must know a lot about Superman, said John.
    Oh, I do said George, I can draw him, I can copy his behaviour, I can think like he does, I know his family, his favourite colour, what he eats for breakfast……………………. I now have him as a balanced, likeable, decent sort of individual, with special powers of course!


  9. Reading this all I can say is WOW. With 2 daughters now having lived through seriously intense PA for almost 20 yrs (mother started on them as early as ages 7 and 11) and having just recently become a Stage 4 cancer survivor myself — I can attest that long term chronic distress and trauma truly affects the body. God Bless your efforts, if you ever what “real life” case info, let me know.

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  10. I, as well, think it’s great that you keep pressing on.

    I know for a fact that quite often, the alienating parent is not alone in their quest to break bonds. They quite often have the help of friends, boyfriends, etc etc and others who’ve no business getting involved.

    This is an epidemic and it needs to be recognized as child abuse and those involved need to be criminally prosecuted and punished.

    I would be happy to offer myself etc as a case study. Please, do not hesitate to contact me.

    Much respect to you.


  11. That’s true, its rarely just a husband/wife. I can’t get help to clear the mess left behind, that’s one point.
    I’ve no problem with CAFCASS just the reasoning, you helped with court action but it went badly wrong. I even wrote to the judge, another jurisdiction, another country. No powers.
    There was a pro bono completed by ECAS and Freshfields in 2006, suggesting a working together in the EU. How this could have helped, it was never put into practice.
    As I struggle with my health, like a previous comment, stress does little to help.
    We desperately need more understanding of those cases going wrong now, building the problems already in existence.
    My MP was powerless, so my MEP, the legal system who put protection in place, another area that was powerless.
    So what is the answer? How can we solve the already problems? This comes at a cost, international law is a total pain when it fails, a very expensive price to pay.
    Remortgage your home to pay for your rights, for those without funding, you are not in a good place.
    For Karen, I most sincerely applaud your efforts, but this subject takes a toll on your family and most of all a child/children.
    I would love to something in place to help those with issues.


  12. Self harming, making the choice not to eat. I know for many years Reunite International have done much to highlight the situation, but it failed in some areas, to go farther.
    I’ve found it so upsetting to watch, not being able to move a situation forward. You can’t to some extent put blame on the parent’s, I believe its been a weak system.
    If no one monitored driving offences or any other law breaking, you have to follow the law. We understand that it has to be that way. But no so, when the non returns get complicated running into tens of thousands whatever the currency you use, it becomes the in some areas difficult to resolve.
    I’m not against the idea of divorce or separation, but its some times the way it goes forward.
    The first year is the most important, bad practice is prevented by anyone, no one is allowed to control.


  13. By my count, severely alienated children have an astronomical ACES score of at least 5 out of 10, possibly going as high as 6 out of 10, by scoring one point for each the following: 1) divorce, 2) emotional abuse, 3) mental illness in the family (e.g. borderline or narcissist) 4) emotional neglect (role reversal relationship), 5) domestic violence (the US Department of Justice says DV includes “damaging one’s relation with his or her children” …. and “forcing isolation from family/friends” ) and 6) there may be false allegations of something that could put someone in prison, which arguably counts for at least another point, especially if they are in jail after being arrested on a false allegation.


    1. My view is that alienated children have an ACE score of 6 plus. I was knocked sideways by the evidence in this film and am currently working on a scoring sheet for assessment purposes as a result Howie.

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  14. Hello, grandchild 15 years old today. I’ve sent him card and present. I know my sister has and my mother use too. This is alienation and selfish behaviour. A child has lost the contact with relatives…….
    Perhaps, if I write an email to Karen, she could suggest a way forward.


  15. Thank you for continuing to work towards a solution to, what I’m discovering, is a massive problem. I’ve been part of a private group on Facebook for several months for estranged parents, and finding so many with similar stories to my own. My children, now 29, 27 and 24, were stolen from me in a custody dispute when they were young. This was facilitated by a bias judge and systemic abuse, and then successfully alienated from me to the extent that now, as adults, they still refuse all contact from me. There are now two grandchildren, and one child still lives in the same city as my parents, but will not reach out even to them. I worry about their well being, and how, after nearly 20 years and becoming parents themselves, they could hold on to the negative ideas and false memories where I am concerned. I want them to be well, with no harbored resentments or unforgiveness.

    I also have raised four other children, on my own, due to divorce. My ex husband chose not to continue responsibility for our children, after our divorce. He is an alcoholic. These children, twin girls 18, son 15 and daughter 13 are all doing very well, and are well adjusted and productive, hard working, excelling at all they do. However, in the past few years, we faced some financial hardships, due to job loss and were evicted from our home. The twins were able to find shelter with another family: the oldest twin’s boyfriend’s family. Suddenly, they refused to be in touch with me, or to include me in any school activities. And now, at 18, they are alienated from me completely, also refusing to respond to my attempts to communicate with them.

    At first, I spent a lot of time grieving and trying to figure out how to “fix” the situation. Nothing I did could be “right”, and I couldn’t understand how these girls, who I worked to raise to have compassion and empathy for everyone, could have such disrespectful attitudes towards me. Now, through some study of PAS, I have realized that their behavior is not necessarily the result of my inadequacies or failures, but the continued negative influence of the family where they live and negative attitudes around them. Even after obtaining another home of our own, they refused to join us and I, respecting their wishes, allowed this, even though they were underage. Now they are 18, I can no longer have a say. I wish for a reconciliation, but am really unsure how to proceed to mend the broken lines of communication.

    The hardest part of my journey has been understanding all the elements that created the situation. Blaming myself for months was counter productive and painful. Having the insight to understand that I am not fully to blame, that forces outside myself have created these circumstances. But, overall, I do feel, as an alienated mother, there’s not enough support for women like myself. There is a stigma, as you did mention, where if you’re a mother without the love of living children, people automatically assume that you were a terrible, awful mother. You must have been completely to blame! I think we need more information, such as you’ve presented here, to bring that myth out and to help everyone understand how to heal from these estrangements. Ultimately, this affects not only families, children and parents, grandparents, generations of family, but also affects communities and how we can build relationships in every aspect of our lives. Keep up the great work! I am happy to offer any further information or assist you with this work in any way.


    1. Oh Ruth, I cried when I read your story!! I too am an alienated mother, my ex having taken my 13yr old son now 17 and left me with our 9yr old daughter, now 13!! I imagine the trauma for her is just as bad, cause why does daddy not want her too?? At the grand old age of 10 she told our social worker that even if she ever wanted to live with daddy she wldnt cause he wldnt let her see mammy ever again!
      Out of the mouths of babes!!
      I cannot imagine your pain but I keep going for the daughter who needs me and the hope my son will come to realise what has happened in his young life!!
      Sometimes I feel guilty because I left their father, and caused the situation, but there was abuse of me and my son! Sometimes it seems people think separation and divorce come easy……I had 4yrs of torture and my son 6mths!!

      You stay strong….and I say that as a mother who never wants to wake up the next morning….but I do!!

      Hugs to you and much love!

      Frankie x


  16. How to remedy the situation, it’s costly who pays? I’m concerned by what I’ve learnt, how an absent father lost his child within international disputed law action, he could not find £14, 000 to pay for court. In Spain you can’t do it yourself. To be a member of the Bar is the only way.
    It’s a total disaster, I just can’t see the light in the tunnel. For my grandson, I failed you, I wanted what you wanted but it was far more than I could give. No one listened, I had not enough money to buy the way forward.
    Your life should not have followed this path.


  17. The comments have one very strong point. Its wrong to state that the blame lies with a male rather than female. We all have different reactions, female or male. This is a very difficult and emotional area of family law, I feel made even more difficult, by the way winning and losing plays a part. That’s how I see it.


  18. Thank you for sharing! I am currently participating in a campaign for raising awareness on children social anxiety. But after reading your article, I feel like my knowledge of social anxiety is still needed to increase! Children with social anxiety problem shared many similar stories in childhood. We are very worrying about the patients who reported adverse childhood experiences were likely to suffer from heart disease, cancer, diabetes and other life changing illness. I have also posted the film Resilience on my campaign page ( ) and I hope everyone can understand how parental alienation is a serious issue for children mental health by watching this film.
    -SAD Children Campaign
    – 17/9/2017


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