Monthly Archives: February 2018

We are now working towards building a force for change by training practitioners around Europe, USA and Australia to work with the problem of parental alienation.  No longer are we willing to say that nothing can be done, we are working to do something and to show others how to do it. This year weContinue reading “Be Part of The New Generation of Practitioners – Learning Opportunities”

This is going to be a big year in the field of parental alienation, in fact when we look back in five years time, this year will, in my view, be the tipping point, the year they heard about parental alienation, the year of no going back. There is nothing difficult about recognising that aContinue reading “Approaching the Tipping Point – 2018 -The Year They Heard About Parental Alienation”

To offset the negative, I also often receive positive comments and here this week I received one of the most wonderful comments.  A comment to make my heart and yours, sing. To cheer us and encourage us, to underscore all that we say and do at the Family Separation Clinic and to keep your faith,Continue reading “Coming Home”

ambivalence noun the state of having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about something or someone. One of the things missing in the world of alienated children is ambivalence.  It is also missing in the lives of alienating parents and in some families, it is missing in the lives of rejected parents too. Lack of ambivalenceContinue reading “Finding Your Peace in an Ambivalent World”

To those who have written to me in the belief that I have somehow joined with Childress on his Facebook page, I am sorry to disappoint you but I haven’t and I won’t be joining with Dr Childress now or at anytime in the future. Until or unless Dr Childress is able to recognise that hisContinue reading “The Unbearable Rightness of Reason”

Ignoring the current discussions about me which abound on the internet would be a little like sipping tea with the elephant in the room sitting on the teapot to keep it warm.  Therefore, as I am first and foremost a psychotherapist, I feel it is my responsibility to face head on what is happening inContinue reading “The Cult of the Beneficient Father: The Negative Transference in Parental Alienation”

Straw Man Argument – Description: Substituting a person’s actual position or argument with a distorted, exaggerated, or misrepresented version of the position of the argument. The straw man argument in cases of parental alienation is extremely common.  It is used by alienating parents who are unable to determine that their beliefs about the other parentContinue reading “Denigration, Division and Divided Loyalty: The Straw Man Trap in Parental Alienation”

There is a plethora of burdens for alienated parents to carry and many ways that these burdens are borne by those who are suffering.  One of the heaviest burdens is the good/bad burden, which is forced upon the alienated parent by the actions of the alienating parent and the system and its ancillary staff. TheContinue reading “The Good/Bad Burden in Parental Alienation”

Those readers who are Van Morrison fans will recognise this as one of his song titles and I am indebted to him for the creation of the sentence which headlines this blog. I have this week re-banned myself from the twitter-sphere after a lengthy exchange about how to present oneself in court and the issueContinue reading “Inarticulate Speech of The Heart”

There is a proliferation of parental alienation experts in the UK at the moment, they seem to be popping up like mushrooms in a dark damp field.  Looking a bit closer at this freshly grown crop, it seems the focus is upon knowing about parental alienation, but there is not much being said about whatContinue reading “Knowing is Not Enough”

2018 is going to be a very important year for the work we do to help children affected by parental alienation all over the world. The Family Separation Clinic is leading the way in making learning opportunities available directly to practitioners who work with families and is hosting and participating in a number of keyContinue reading “Practitioner Training Opportunities 2018”

I first came across the Mindful Gardner Blog last week and was entranced by the pleasure of the pictures, the words and the concepts of simply being with the natural world. Living in London, I have only a small balcony to grow plants and flowers and coming from the countryside, a garden is one ofContinue reading “Sitting with sadness”