When Children Lie and Why They Lie: The Shared Psychotic Delusion in Parental Alienation

When we assess a case of a child’s rejection of a parent we begin by looking at the outward presentation of the child.  Is the child refusing to see the parent partially or completely, is the child rejecting the parent vehemently or inconsistently, what is the narrative used by the child to explain their rejectionContinue reading “When Children Lie and Why They Lie: The Shared Psychotic Delusion in Parental Alienation”

The Unpicking of Stitches: Is it Finally Time for The Early Intervention Project?

Those who read regularly will be aware that I have long been a champion of the Early Intervention Project (EI) in the UK, a project which is designed to give guidance to the Judiciary on the matter of how much time a child should spend with each parent after family separation.  This project has beenContinue reading “The Unpicking of Stitches: Is it Finally Time for The Early Intervention Project?”

Anatomy of Alienation: Mapping the Unconscious in Unjustified Rejection

One of the biggest issues in cases of parental alienation is the manner in which the unconscious life of the family carries the secrets which cause the problem of alienation. In that sense, parental alienation can be regarded as being part of the anatomy of the family, carried forward by each generation as if itContinue reading “Anatomy of Alienation: Mapping the Unconscious in Unjustified Rejection”

EAPAP 2018: Key Learning Outcomes

The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners is a new membership body for practitioners in Europe working with high conflict families after divorce and separation and those affected by parental alienation.  The first international conference is being held in London on August 30/31st 2018 and features worldwide experts Amy J L Baker, Steve Miller andContinue reading “EAPAP 2018: Key Learning Outcomes”

The Distancing of Fathering: Too Great a Loss in the Landscape

Today is Father’s Day in the UK and all around the land children will be marking the day for their dads.  For some there will be no card or present, no telephone call or good wishes. For some children there will be no opportunity to give these and for others the opportunity will be deniedContinue reading “The Distancing of Fathering: Too Great a Loss in the Landscape”

With Kindness in Heart and Mind

Today we open our alienated mothers retreat in Somerset England. The sun is shining, the food is sourced, the yoga mats are packed and the journey of kindness begins.   When I work this way with parents and wider family members who have been hurt by a child’s maladaptive response to the post separation landscape,Continue reading “With Kindness in Heart and Mind”

EAPAP – London 2018: What it Means for Parents

The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners was convened in Prague in 2017 to provide a new governing body for everyone working in the field of parental alienation.  The EAPAP website has details of the members and we will be adding to that list over the coming months as membership grows.   What EAPAP doesContinue reading “EAPAP – London 2018: What it Means for Parents”

Walks in the Wasteland: The Experience of Children in Divorce and Separation

Just like all psychotherapists, what I do is inspired by my own life.   It is therefore no accident that I work with children who experience the divorce and separation of their parents.  My earliest memories are of my young cousin, traumatised from the divorce of his parents, having to be peeled away from hisContinue reading “Walks in the Wasteland: The Experience of Children in Divorce and Separation”