EAPAP – London 2018: What it Means for Parents

The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners was convened in Prague in 2017 to provide a new governing body for everyone working in the field of parental alienation.  The EAPAP website has details of the members and we will be adding to that list over the coming months as membership grows.   What EAPAP does for parents, is provide a reassurance that the people who are working with you, are working to internationally recognised standards of practice in the field of parental alienation.  In recent months there has been a mushrooming of practitioners who say they are experts in the field, including many who say they are ‘the only’ practitioners doing this or that.  As a parent, when you see this kind of proclamation, be wary if the people making it are not members of EAPAP because if they are not, what they are doing is not working to internationally recognised standards of practice, but something else.

The risk for parents who experience rejection from their children is that they will fall into the hands of people who believe that they know the solutions to parental alienation but in fact the solutions they use are far away from what is needed.  I have recently read headlines stating that someone is ‘the only practitioner group using assessment and therapy for parental alienation‘ and another which reads ‘the only practitioner concerned with narcissistic abuse and parental alienation.’  Whilst these strap lines look good as marketing tools, the reality is that vulnerable parents will believe these claims and will end up being put through assessments which are nothing like internationally recognised standards.  EAPAP as a regulating body which is in line with the Parental Alienation Study Group, will ensure that all parents can be confident that the service they are receiving is properly configured to meet the needs of alienated children and their families.

The EAPAP Conference in London brings the worldwide experts in the field of parental alienation together with leading legal and mental health professionals in the UK and Europe.  This conference is an important staging post in ensuring that the emerging field of parental alienation is properly regulated to protect parents from people who say they are expert when in fact they are not.  I have written recently about how to make the right choices about who should assess your case, membership of EAPAP, will give all parents the reassurance that what is being done in your case is really conforming to international standards of practice.

At the very least any practitioner with whom you work should be able to do the following –

  • Give three references of parents whose children have been reunited with them via their work in the family courts.
  • Demonstrate the assessment process undertaken and the point at which the alienated child is reintroduced to the parent they are rejecting.
  • Explain their work in the field and how it conforms to internationally recognised practice.

Any practitioner who suggests that by asking the above questions you are somehow being difficult or contributing to the problem seen in your children should be avoided.

EAPAP brings together those who are working to internationally recognised standards in the UK and Europe.  You can see those people here.

You can read more about the EAPAP Conference here.

Alienated parents and their children are a vulnerable group with particular needs. EAPAP will protect parents and children as well as practitioners who seek to do this work in ways which conform to international standards.

The Family Separation Clinic is leading the curation and certification of internationally recognised standards of practice for the Parental Alienation Study Group and is the leading partner in the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners.

Please note that tickets for parents for the conference will be available in July.

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  1. Once my daughter had received full custody of her alienated children, in April of 2017, via the office of the Ontario Children’s Lawyer and the Judge, who had, by then, seized himself to the file, she took the children to a re-unification therapist in Ottawa, ON, Canada, an hour from home.

    A year in and, while they have come a long way in certain respects, the children are still very troubled, with almost no impulse control, with outbursts when things do not go exactly as they want and with absolutely no understanding of what they have gone through, the why of it, or mediation for it. All of this because, while the therapist ‘s organization had advertised, online, that they were re-unification therapists, that turned out not to be the case.

    When ‘challenged’ that the therapy did not seem to be going down the path of re-unification, as we understood it from your blogs, they denied ever having said it was ‘re-unification therapy.’ When we again looked, all mention of this therapist’s re-unification background had been removed from their website. It turns out that the therapist has a social worker background and was busy, for example, having one of the children write a letter to her dad expressing her grief at not seeing him. After initial resistance, two of the children have really warmed up to her, so they continue to see her, hopefully to help correct some of the poor behaviours, but nothing is being done or will be done in regard to re-unification, which leaves us feeling desperate to get them proper help.

    It seems to me that the progress that HAS been made is directly attributable to the fact that they are no longer in the grips of the, what had been, ongoing alienation attempts, living full time with the rejected parent, as they do. Gardiner’s 8 symptoms were all in place, to one degree or another, at the time that their Mom got full custody. The court order, in place, states that their dad cannot come within 200 meters of the family home and is not to see the children or speak to them, including through social media, although we strongly suspect that the eldest son, at age 14 and in high school, does meet with him during school breaks. He comes home at times with attitudes, similar to the past, that spread to the other children. As you can well imagine, it has not been an easy go and, while it is better, it is not great. The dad will resume his rights to see his children when he gets a mental health assessment, addiction counselling and conflict management counselling. At that point, he must attend re-unification or therapy sessions to assess the situation before meeting in those sessions with the children.

    Karen, I’ve emailed your office twice to ask about telephone counselling. Would it be helpful a year in, do you think and would it be useful once the dad meets the other orders of the court. Please let us know, as the future of these children remains at

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  2. So, would I be right saying CAMHS should be complying with the international standards? I resently received a letter from CAMHS stateing “We do not claim expert knowledge in Implacable Hostility (Parental Alienation)” this resaulted in my Son being discharged and with the Alienating parent be advised to “support my son”

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