The EAPAP Conference will hear from leading UK legal people on best practice in dealing with cases where children reject a parent after separation. Leading UK Barristers will speak about the way in which such cases can be managed effectively and we will hear about early fact finding as a core principle in legal management.
Much is changing in the UK and with a new President of the Family Division in post, the prospect of an early intervention approach to resolving cases involving a child’s rejection of a parent is now in sight. The new President has spoken widely about early fact finding and this is a welcome step in the right direction for resolving cases of PA swiftly, at least in the UK.
In my previous post I gave a case sample of the way that the Family Separation Clinic uses the legal and mental health interlock to bring about swift change for children in cases of rejection where there are no personality disorders in play.
One of our commitments to parents with whom we work, is to give them the names and contact details of at least three people whose children we have reunited through our work. This is true whether we are delivering an intervention where there are no personality disorders present (hybrid cases) or where there are personality disorders present (pure). Thus when we say that we reunite children with parents using our models, parents can be reassured that this is, indeed what we do. Helping parents to hear from others about what to expect, how we do what we do and what the ups and downs really are, is our absolute commitment. Because we know that when parents are informed, they are ready and when they are ready, our work becomes so much easier.
One of the principles of our work is to seek orders from the court which enable us to do what we need to do swiftly. This also makes our work easier. One of the orders we seek is that the alienating parent is required to make the child available for clinical observation. This means bringing the child to our observation centre to meet with the rejected parent for the purpose of assessment. Our assessments are not complete until the alienated child is seen with the parent they are rejecting. This is something which is very rare in the UK, where assessments are almost always completed without the child being seen with the parent they are rejecting. For some unfortunate rejected parents, seeing their child for the first time comes after many months and sometimes years of therapy.
When we put the child into clinical observation with a rejected parent we are raising the issue of the child’s split state of mind to the surface immediately. This allows us to observe and, if possible, restore the child’s split state of mind without delay. For the rejected parent, this is often their first opportunity to be in the same room as their child after years of rejection. Full and careful preparation of the parent is therefore undertaken prior to this meeting to enable this to occur in the most beneficial way possible to parent and child.
Another principle of our work is to triage those cases which require fact finding with immediate effect. It is of no use whatsoever accepting any case which has outstanding disputed facts because doing so simply means that the intervention recycles the dispute and no change is made. Actually, these days, in conjunction with leading legal people in the UK, cases are increasingly coming to the Clinic AFTER fact finding and with a Judgement of alienation. Which of course makes the intervention far more potent in terms of the capacity we have to shift the power dynamic away from the alienating parent.
The Family Separation Clinic is small but we are linked with worldwide experts in this field and we are working with the Child and Youth Protection Centre of Zagreb to bring about the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners to set international standards of practice in this field. Standards of practice which are drawn from our own expertise which is informed by international research evidence. Interest in the European Association is already high and we will be ready for new members who practice in this field from the Autumn of this year. Members who can train with EAPAP, be supervised and mentored and who will deliver interventions to families which are transparent and which conform to internationally recognised standards.
All of which standardises the way in which such work is delivered and which gives parents hope that the practitioners they are working with, do what they say they will do.
Hope is a vital part of surviving the terrible experience of parental alienation and it has been long absent for alienated parents around the world.
The EAPAP conference next week, opens the door to new hope for families affected by this problem everywhere.
EAPAP Conference tickets can be purchased here
EAPAP will launch the internationally recognised standards of practice with alienated children and families on Day One of the Conference.
EAPAP will be open for membership from late Autumn 2018. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org for information about how to join.
EAPAP was formed in 2017 at a meeting between representatives from 14 different EU countries. It is co-hosted by the Family Separation Clinic in London and the Child and Youth Protection Centre in Zagreb.
EAPAP will standardise practice in this field and is currently in discussion with EU wide policy makers about its work and how it will provide transparent standards of practice which are regulated and supervised.
The EAPAP Conference in London is on 30/31st August at the Cavendish Centre in Central London.
Registration opens at 8am and the events begins at 9.30am and ends at 5pm.
If you have booked and paid for your ticket, please bring a form of ID with you to obtain your pass from reception.
Parent Panel members, please watch your inbox for welcome notes.