Personal, Political and Partisan: The Toxic Extremities of Parental Alienation

Working with children who reject a parent after family separation is the most toxic environment for any practitioner to be involved in.  At times I find myself having to step away and do something different for a while, so extreme is the negative projection coming my way.  Those of us who are right in theContinue reading “Personal, Political and Partisan: The Toxic Extremities of Parental Alienation”

Heroes and Villains: Avoiding the Split Narrative in the Experience of Being an Alienated Parent

One of the biggest problems in coping with being rejected by your children is the manner in which you are forced into a mirroring of the good/bad splitting which is going on in your child’s mind.  The good/bad split is the belief that everyone is either good or bad and that the world and allContinue reading “Heroes and Villains: Avoiding the Split Narrative in the Experience of Being an Alienated Parent”

Splits in the Landscape of Living: Working with the Alienation Dynamic in Families

I continue my work with families affected by parental alienation and as I do so I find myself learning at the deepest level, about the splits in the internal landscape  which underpin this cruel phenomenon. The cruelty of parental alienation  is the manner in which it first presents itself, coming to light in the closingContinue reading “Splits in the Landscape of Living: Working with the Alienation Dynamic in Families”

The Modern Day Witch Trials: Social Work and the Voice of the Child

Working as I do in the Family Court I come across what I call the Parallel Universe Principle (PUP) on many occasions.  The PUP is that which is suffered by Social Workers, who are trained it seems to believe that whatever children say should be believed and that their requests and demands should form theContinue reading “The Modern Day Witch Trials: Social Work and the Voice of the Child”