The Gap Between Theory and Practice: The Child’s Perspective of Parental Alienation

A comment on here this last week made me think about the theory of parental alienation and how unhelpful it is in practice. So much so that in our work with families we rarely, if ever, use the term parental alienation, especially with children. In my clinical experience, the use of the term parental alienation raisesContinue reading “The Gap Between Theory and Practice: The Child’s Perspective of Parental Alienation”

At The Heart of Hope is Love

Children who are suffering from induced psychological splitting in the post divorce and separation landscape are today given signals all over the world that their families love them. The bubbles blown, around the globe, carry the hope of their parents and grandparents, their wider family and friends, that their children know that they are there,Continue reading “At The Heart of Hope is Love”

Alienation and the Myth of High Conflict: A Child’s Eye View

Looking at the experience of alienation from the eye of the child, the myth that this is caused by high conflict is very much exposed. Up close and personal, in day to day work with families affected by a child’s induced psychological splitting, alienation is not about high conflict, it is about the inter-psychic worldContinue reading “Alienation and the Myth of High Conflict: A Child’s Eye View”

The Atmosphere of Trans-Generational Alienation

Having taken the road less travelled in my work over recent years, I have been absorbed in thinking and working with trans-generational trauma transmission, the element which most fascinates me in cases where a child is using the defence of psychological splitting. I wrote about trans-generational haunting in 2013  and it is this element of theContinue reading “The Atmosphere of Trans-Generational Alienation”

Alienation in the Age of Covid 19

self-alienation n. estrangement from oneself, typically accompanied by significant emotional distancing. The self-alienated individual is frequently unaware of or largely unable to describe his or her own intrapsychic processes. Social alienation is “a condition in social relationships reflected by a low degree of integration or common values and a high degree of distance or isolationContinue reading “Alienation in the Age of Covid 19”

Alienation After Divorce and Separation: A Relational Response to Resolution

It is our view at the Family Separation Clinic that what is called Parental Alienation is a relational problem in families which creates a defence in the child of psychological splitting.  This causes the child to display absolute resistance to the rejected parent when the defence is at its strongest. In that respect, the childContinue reading “Alienation After Divorce and Separation: A Relational Response to Resolution”

The Experience of Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation

I said I would write about induced psychological splitting in children of divorce and separation from the perspective of the child. This is a work in progress, which is part of my research at Regents University in London, where I am examining how individuals who rejected a parent after family separation, experience and understand adultContinue reading “The Experience of Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation”

Treatment of Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation

I have been writing about induced psychological splitting in children of divorce and separation, which in our experience at the Family Separation Clinical, is the core problem in which is popularly called parental alienation. Over twelve years of being involved in this field, we have come to recognise that what we see in our clinicalContinue reading “Treatment of Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation”

Assessing Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation

Last week I wrote about understanding induced psychological splitting in children. Today I am writing about assessing it. Induced psychological splitting in children is, in our clinical experience, the underlying cause of what is popularly called parental alienation.  It is our experience that the splitting in the child, which is caused by the pressures placedContinue reading “Assessing Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation”