Identification With The Aggressor: The Silencing of Alienated Children

In reading some of the online campaigning around the family courts these days, you would be forgiven for thinking that all fathers are dangerous to their children after separation and all mothers are victims  who are simply protecting their children when they  cut off contact. Alternatively, you would be forgiven for thinking that all fathersContinue reading “Identification With The Aggressor: The Silencing of Alienated Children”

Children First: Avoiding the Split Narrative in Parental Alienation

Working with children affected by induced psychological splitting brings practitioners into contact with the split narrative.  This is seen when the issue of parental alienation is used as a personal and political football in a game of whether or not it is a real thing. On one side we have the pro-alienation team and onContinue reading “Children First: Avoiding the Split Narrative in Parental Alienation”

Treating Relational Trauma in Children of Divorce and Separation

Relational trauma in divorce and separation is seen when children carry the consequences of their parents behaviours. Alienation in a child is caused by a process of events, behaviours in parents, the environment in which they occur and the child’s own resilience or lack of it. Breaking down an understanding of the issue so thatContinue reading “Treating Relational Trauma in Children of Divorce and Separation”

Learning From Past Mistakes?

This is a guest post from Peter Davies the co-founder of the National Association of Alienated Parents in the UK, an organisation which gives advice and guidance to parents who have been rejected by their child after divorce or separation without cause. Peter is a legally qualified advisor for NAAP which ensures that the guidanceContinue reading “Learning From Past Mistakes?”

The Age of the Bubble: Covid 19 and Parental Alienation

Around the world we have become used to social distancing. This practice, which took us only a short while to internalise, protects us from catching or passing on Covid 19.  Now that lockdown is starting to lift, the impact of social distancing on children’s brain development is being examined. This is to be welcomed. NeverContinue reading “The Age of the Bubble: Covid 19 and Parental Alienation”

Giving Voice to the Uspeakable: The Language of the Alienated Child

It has long been noticeable to me that many alienated children speak in a different language to other children. In fact the language of the alienated child has to be heard with a different ear to that which would normally be used, precisely because the language is different. The reason it is different is thatContinue reading “Giving Voice to the Uspeakable: The Language of the Alienated Child”

Constrain, Protect and Treat: Three Steps to Intervention in Alienation

Working with other clinicians allows me to formulate new way of educating others about how to approach cases of a child being induced to use psychological splitting in divorce and separation.  Lately we have been discussing how to help social workers, people we often work with in teams, to understand the concept of alienation usingContinue reading “Constrain, Protect and Treat: Three Steps to Intervention in Alienation”