Reactive splitting in Rejected parents: the hidden cost of living with negative projection

In recent articles I have been talking about splitting, a defence mechanism which is used by the alienated child to cope with the intolerable situation in which they cannot love both of their parents. Whatever the reason they are getting the message that it is not ok to love both parents, splitting is the defenceContinue reading “Reactive splitting in Rejected parents: the hidden cost of living with negative projection”

Relational trauma in divorce and separation

In September the EAPAP Conference will focus upon the component parts of how a child comes to reject a parent outright in divorce and separation. Featuring leading clinicians, this conference opens up a new chapter in evolving understanding of the problem which has been called parental alienation but which we now recognise as relational trauma.Continue reading “Relational trauma in divorce and separation”

‘I DID NOT SEE MY DAUGHTERS FOR YEARS:’ THE IMPACT OF COERCIVE CONTROL ON POST-DIVORCE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MOTHERS AND CHILDREN – Dr Sietska Dijkstra

Dr Dijkstra is a Board member of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners. She will be presenting at the third conference of EAPAP in September. Dr. Sietske Dijkstra is a specialist in violence within relationships. She offers research, education and advice to professionals, practitioners, managers and policy makers in many welfare, social and juridical sectorsContinue reading “‘I DID NOT SEE MY DAUGHTERS FOR YEARS:’ THE IMPACT OF COERCIVE CONTROL ON POST-DIVORCE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MOTHERS AND CHILDREN – Dr Sietska Dijkstra”

Best Practice in Work with Alienated Children and Families – Israel

As the third conference of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners draws closer this is an article from Parental Alienation Europe, the Newsletter of EAPAP. In Israel, colleagues are working with psychoanalytic understanding and trauma informed practice to bring about positive resolutions in cases of child alienation and relational trauma in divorce and separation.Continue reading “Best Practice in Work with Alienated Children and Families – Israel”

Dealing with Splitting: The Good, the Bad and avoiding the Ugly

Yesterday I ran our Zoom Seminar entitled Understanding the Alienated Child, which was attended by people from seven countries around the world. Eighty percent of the attendees were women. Working through a two hour programme (which ran over to two and a half hours because as usual there is so much to say), we lookedContinue reading “Dealing with Splitting: The Good, the Bad and avoiding the Ugly”

Shadowlands: The World in Negative Projection

This definition of projection is from the APA Negative projection is a powerful dynamic in families affected by alienation. It is a powerful dynamic surrounding those families too and anyone who ventures in to this space must understand what it is and how it manifests itself.  Negative projection is the mechanism by which someone splitsContinue reading “Shadowlands: The World in Negative Projection”