Disguising abuse: A genealogy of denial

The Meier Report (2019) triggered a wave of ideological based narratives, that claims of alienation are only a tool used by abusive men against protective mothers. Amongst those narratives, were, that when alienation is claimed in a case, there is a greater likelihood of the father gaining custody. Fortunately, the reconstruction of the Meier reportContinue reading “Disguising abuse: A genealogy of denial”

The Harman & Lorandos Study: Exposing misleading information in ideological narratives of alienation

The project to separate out, the needs of children, from the rights of their mothers and fathers, is important. Throughout many decades, the project to convince the outside world that children do not need fathers or that mothers whose children reject them must have done something very wrong indeed, has been ongoing. The picture ofContinue reading “The Harman & Lorandos Study: Exposing misleading information in ideological narratives of alienation”

National Family Breakdown Service for the UK?

As anyone who has read this blog since I began writing it in 2009 knows, one of my long time hopes has been for a national family breakdown service. In 2008, when we worked for the DWP in developing co-ordinated family services to support collaborative child maintenance arrangements, the focus was very much upon helpingContinue reading “National Family Breakdown Service for the UK?”

Bruises on my soul: A clinical Seminar from the lighthouse project

This week I recorded a clinical seminar for the Lighthouse Project. with five highly experienced practitioners in the field of relational trauma in divorce and separation working in different countries. The title of this blog, which introduces this seminar to you, is taken from a picture, shown in the seminar, by Mia Roje Djapic, aContinue reading “Bruises on my soul: A clinical Seminar from the lighthouse project”

Clinical Seminar Today

Dear Readers, We have been inundated with requests for the link for the Clinical Seminar which features six clinicians from around the world who are working with alienated children and their families. Our intention in bringing these experienced people together, is to provide learning and insight into the internal world of working with families affectedContinue reading “Clinical Seminar Today”

Silence is golden: avoiding the he said/she said trap in alienation

Today we have been working with Mediators from MIKK in Germany, the International Centre for Family Conflict and Child Abduction. Delivering to specialists in this field is a real privilege because it furthers the project of working across borders to build a network of alienation aware professionals. Our work throughout the pandemic has increased significantlyContinue reading “Silence is golden: avoiding the he said/she said trap in alienation”

overcoming the high conflict myth in working with alienation in divorce and separation

Working with relational trauma in divorce and separation means looking at the whole spectrum of dynamics between parents who are separating. Drawing upon knowledge about how coercive control is used by some parents to control the other, we are able to identify those cases in which children are withdrawing from a parent due to somethingContinue reading “overcoming the high conflict myth in working with alienation in divorce and separation”