This week we are working hard to get ready for our autumn launch of self help services for families affected by alienation, transition difficulties and loss of a child after separation. These services aim to put into your hands the tools and support that you need to learn, cope and heal from the problems affecting your family after separation. These problems are many and we know that the inability of the family court system, regularly leads to the loss of a child for too many parents all over the world.
Whilst debates rage on across the globe about how legislative change can resolve these issues, we have decided to simply put into the hands of as many parents as possible, the tools and strategies that can help to prevent the terrible life experience that is the complete loss of a child. We have decided to do this because we know that the family court process does not always offer the answer that is needed to this problem but instead can act to make things worse not better.
The following podcast was made on the 25th April 2015 which was Parental Alienation Awareness Day around the globe. You may remember that on that day we launched our sewing together for alienated children project called Living Losses. We have decided to release this particular podcast this week because we are preparing for our autumn launch and we wanted to let you have a sample of what you can expect from our new services. This interview is focused upon the experience of alienation and aims to raise awareness of the appalling impact of living with the loss of a child. Others will focus upon understanding, coping and healing and will be based upon the book which will also be ready for launch in September.
Please be warned that this podcast is incredibly powerful in terms of the reality of living with the loss of a child through parental alienation. This mother has lived with the loss for a long time and has done some amazing work in the face of that loss to raise the awareness of the problem globally. We are grateful to her for sharing her experience and we stand with her in her continued determination to stay healthy and well so that when her children are freed from the psychologically and emotional abuse they have suffered, she will be in a good place to help them to heal.
As you listen you should be aware that this is an ordinary mother, this case is an ordinary case. These children were in a loving relationship with their mother and they were systematically turned against her by a determined and vengeful father. As such this is something that could happen to anyone, mother or father, should they have children with someone who is unwell, angry or stuck in a pattern of revenge. In this case the court had no power to do anything to change the children’s mindset, even though their mother begged for help when it was clear that her youngest child was also being alienated. The court is no place for families like this, where mental health experts are needed and clear understanding of the intolerable pressures upon children in some separated families are urgently required.
This is not something that is happening to someone else, if you are going through family separation, this could happen to you. Spread the word, make people listen to this, let’s begin to raise the stakes so that what is happening to our children in the family courts all over the world is heard and understood.
It is time to be the change we want to see in the world of family separation.
Our new site launches in September along with the book Understanding Parental Alienation: Learning to cope, helping to heal. Both will be packed full of self help strategies, learning and skill sets for coping with alienation. Our site will feature interviews with families we have helped, coping tips from parents who have experienced alienation and forums for discussion and self help. We look forward to welcoming you.
For now, before you press play on this interview, pause and think about the children who are affected by alienation. An experience which is life changing and which is deeply damaging. This mother will, when her children come home, provide for them the healthy environment in which they can recover a sense of self and sanity. Take courage from her strength and tenacity in the face of appalling loss and come and join us in the autumn. Because together we will change the world.