Giving Children Their Childhood Back: What Really Works With Alienated Children 7 Jun 20198 Jun 2019 The term parental alienation is used widely to describe a child's unjustified rejection of a parent after family separation. Unjustified rejection is described as a child rejecting a parent when…
Omnipotent Thinking: Defence and Entrapment in Parental Alienation 3 Jun 20193 Jun 2019 omnipotence /ɒmˈnɪpət(ə)ns/ noun noun: omnipotence; plural noun: omnipotences the quality of having unlimited or very great power. entrapment /ɪnˈtrapm(ə)nt,ɛnˈtrapm(ə)nt/ noun noun: entrapment; plural noun: entrapments the state of…
World Health Organisation Recognises Parental Alienation 27 May 201927 May 2019 Despite the efforts of political ideological groups to prevent it, on May 25th 2019, the World Health Organisation accepted the current version of ICD-11 which contains within it the index…
Near and Far Memory: The Experience of Generational Loss in Parental Alienation 24 May 2019 Parental alienation doesn't just affect the horizontal family line, parents and children, it affects the vertical family line too, the grandparents and great grandparents. This week I have been sent…
PA Denied: The Abandonment of Alienated Mothers 21 May 201921 May 2019 As the two biggest network of organizations promoting and protecting the rights of women and children, we have observed with grave concern that the safety and wellbeing of women and…
The Return of Gender Wars: The Politics of Family Separation UK 16 May 2019 If you watched the Victoria Derbyshire show yesterday you would be forgiven for thinking that we were back to the turn of the century in the UK on the topic…
The Memory of Flowers: Near and Far Recollections in People Suffering Psychological Splitting as Children 13 May 2019 Jed remembers that he took flowers to his mother and she didn't say thank you. He remembers that he felt very hurt and told his dad. His dad told him…
A River Runs Through It 11 May 2019 Life. One thing I know about it is that it doesn’t stay the same. Everything changes and being able to recognise that is one of the key resilience skills for…
The Courage and Strength to Keep Going 25 Apr 2019 Life isn't easy at times and one thing I have come to know is that things change and life bowls all sorts of balls at us in an effort to…
Wilderness – A Review 22 Apr 201922 Apr 2019 Wilderness is a play about the impact on children of family separation, it runs until April 27th at the Hampstead Theatre in London - try to see it if you…
Removal from Harm – The Trigger for Integration of Splitting in Parental Alienation 14 Apr 201914 Apr 2019 I work with families affected by the infantile defence of psychological splitting, this is the core wound experienced in parental alienation. As I continue on my journey, I understand that…
Evidence from a Decade of Reuniting Alienated Children and Parents in the UK 10 Apr 201910 Apr 2019 It is a decade since I worked with Thomas Moore to assist in reuniting him with his son after many years apart. You can read about his journey and our…
The Vampire Diaries: Transgenerational Haunting in Parental Alienation 7 Apr 20197 Apr 2019 I have been working for some time now on a new therapeutic approach with families affected by parental alienation which has its roots in trans-generational family therapy as developed by…
The View From The Mountain: A Decade of Working with PA in the UK 26 Mar 201926 Mar 2019 Wordpress congratulated me today on a decade of blogging. I knew it was around this time I sat down to write my first blog on the subject of parental alienation,…
Keeping Your Wits About You: Critical Thinking for Alienated Parents 24 Mar 2019 If you can keep your wits about you while all others are losing theirs, and blaming you. The world will be yours and everything in it, what's more, you'll be…
PA News Worldwide -PASG2019 19 Mar 2019 PARENTAL ALIENATION STUDY GROUP THIRD INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA — September 12–14, 2019 Mark your calendars for September 12–14, 2019. Preparations are underway for PASG2019, the third annual conference of…
Question Everything 17 Mar 201917 Mar 2019 I carry with me a piece of advice given to me at school by my history teacher. It is one of my most treasured possessions - the exhortation to ‘question…
Daddy’s Girl and Mummy’s World: The Story of Covert Emotional Incest 10 Mar 2019 Once upon a time there was a little girl, her daddy called her his little princess. Daddy took his little princess everywhere with him, he was so proud of his…
Understanding Parental Alienation Workshop for Parents in Edinburgh 7 Mar 20197 Mar 2019 Our Edinburgh Workshop is filling up and we are putting the finishing touches to a day packed with learning and information. Our workshops are always lively experiences which aim to…
When Children are in Charge: Rebuilding The Family Hierarchy in Treatment of Parental Alienation 6 Mar 2019 One of the biggest problems which we face when working with parental alienation is the lack of understanding in professionals around the family of the need for the rebuilding of…
Parental Alienation and the High Conflict Myth 3 Mar 20193 Mar 2019 A conflict, by definition, must involve two or more sides (unless it is within you). Therefore if parental alienation is about high conflict divorce it must mean that both of you…
Developing Relational Networks in Europe 28 Feb 2019 This week we have been in Antwerp where we delivered two lectures to Judges and Advocates from Belgium and Holland at the Het Huis Symposium on complex divorce. Whilst Britain…
Objects in the Rear View Mirror 24 Feb 201924 Feb 2019 As I continue with my research alongside my therapeutic work with families, I am building a new approach to working with families affected by parental alienation which combines trans-generational psychotherapy…
What’s in a Name? 21 Feb 201921 Feb 2019 ''That which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet." William Shakespeare - Romeo and Juliet The term parental alienation is increasingly coming to public consciousness,…
Parental Alienation News Europe 19 Feb 20199 Apr 2019 Leading the Way in Romania The interdisciplinary approach of litigation with minor in cases of Parental Alienation Conference -16-17 of May 2019 - Bucharest, Romania. Bucharest Tribunal together with an…
Parental Alienation on Stage in London 16 Feb 2019 Wilderness is a play about parental alienation written by Kellie Smith whose experience in writing for performance is extensive and impressive. Next month in London, the Hampstead Theatre in London will…
Solving Parental Alienation With The Legal and Mental Health Interlock 15 Feb 2019 Resolving cases of parental alienation requires the interlocking interventions of the family court and mental health. Those of us who do this work know that this is a given and…
Living on the Edge: The ‘Non Alienating’ Alienator 12 Feb 201912 Feb 2019 There are some extraordinarily difficult relational scenarios within the overall group of families which are affected by parental alienation, one of the most difficult being the ‘non alienating’ alienating parent.…
Training and Development Group 2019 8 Feb 2019 We are convening our 2019 Training and Development Group for professionals in the helping therapies who would like to develop their practice in the field of parental alienation. This is…
Ghosts of the Unremembered Past 4 Feb 20194 Feb 2019 “We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. Through the…
Digging up the Feminist Past to Develop a Family Focused Future 27 Jan 201927 Jan 2019 This week I am continuing work on the formation of therapeutic approaches to working with families affected by parental alienation, an ongoing project of mine which examines three things -…
Understanding The Triangulating Alienated Child 21 Jan 201921 Jan 2019 One of the most difficult people to understand in the alienation drama is the triangulating alienated child. This child is one I have come to know as the proxy alienator,…
The Hierarchical Flow of Living 18 Jan 2019 Avoid providing material for the drama that is always stretched tight between parents and children; it uses up much of the children’s strength and wastes the love of the elders,…
Lighting the Lamps: Giving Voice to Those Who Walk in the Wasteland 11 Jan 201912 Jan 2019 Who is the third who walks always beside you? When I count, there are only you and I together But when I look ahead up the white road There is…
Your Heart in Their Hands: Critical Thinking for Alienated Parents 30 Dec 2018 As an alienated parent you are in a vulnerable place psychologically. Alienation forces you to maladapt your behaviours just as your child has been forced to. It also puts you…
Betwixt and Between: The Liminal Spaces in Parental Alienation 28 Dec 2018 “At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless; Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is, But neither arrest nor movement. And…
Lights of Love for all of the Lost Ones 20 Dec 2018 It is the last day of the working year for the Family Separation Clinic and as I begin to put the files away and seal the notebooks up, at the…
Letters Home to Your Children’s Heart 13 Dec 201813 Dec 2018 This is the time of year when we all want to go home. Even if our childhood home no longer exists, the idea of going home and finding our place…
It’s the Most Difficult Time of the Year 7 Dec 2018 We are coming up to Christmas. In London the lights are twinkling all around us and the music floating out of the shop doorways reminds me of my own childhood…
No More Generic Therapy for Parental Alienation 2 Dec 20182 Dec 2018 There is a new dawn breaking in the field of parental alienation, especially in Europe where we continue the work of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners. This new…
