Parental Alienation on Stage in London 16 Feb 2019 Wilderness is a play about parental alienation written by Kellie Smith whose experience in writing for performance is extensive and impressive. Next month in London, the Hampstead Theatre in London will…
Solving Parental Alienation With The Legal and Mental Health Interlock 15 Feb 2019 Resolving cases of parental alienation requires the interlocking interventions of the family court and mental health. Those of us who do this work know that this is a given and…
Living on the Edge: The ‘Non Alienating’ Alienator 12 Feb 201912 Feb 2019 There are some extraordinarily difficult relational scenarios within the overall group of families which are affected by parental alienation, one of the most difficult being the ‘non alienating’ alienating parent.…
Training and Development Group 2019 8 Feb 2019 We are convening our 2019 Training and Development Group for professionals in the helping therapies who would like to develop their practice in the field of parental alienation. This is…
Ghosts of the Unremembered Past 4 Feb 20194 Feb 2019 “We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. Through the…
Digging up the Feminist Past to Develop a Family Focused Future 27 Jan 201927 Jan 2019 This week I am continuing work on the formation of therapeutic approaches to working with families affected by parental alienation, an ongoing project of mine which examines three things -…
Understanding The Triangulating Alienated Child 21 Jan 201921 Jan 2019 One of the most difficult people to understand in the alienation drama is the triangulating alienated child. This child is one I have come to know as the proxy alienator,…
The Hierarchical Flow of Living 18 Jan 2019 Avoid providing material for the drama that is always stretched tight between parents and children; it uses up much of the children’s strength and wastes the love of the elders,…
Lighting the Lamps: Giving Voice to Those Who Walk in the Wasteland 11 Jan 201912 Jan 2019 Who is the third who walks always beside you? When I count, there are only you and I together But when I look ahead up the white road There is…
Your Heart in Their Hands: Critical Thinking for Alienated Parents 30 Dec 2018 As an alienated parent you are in a vulnerable place psychologically. Alienation forces you to maladapt your behaviours just as your child has been forced to. It also puts you…
Betwixt and Between: The Liminal Spaces in Parental Alienation 28 Dec 2018 “At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless; Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is, But neither arrest nor movement. And…
Lights of Love for all of the Lost Ones 20 Dec 2018 It is the last day of the working year for the Family Separation Clinic and as I begin to put the files away and seal the notebooks up, at the…
Letters Home to Your Children’s Heart 13 Dec 201813 Dec 2018 This is the time of year when we all want to go home. Even if our childhood home no longer exists, the idea of going home and finding our place…
It’s the Most Difficult Time of the Year 7 Dec 2018 We are coming up to Christmas. In London the lights are twinkling all around us and the music floating out of the shop doorways reminds me of my own childhood…
No More Generic Therapy for Parental Alienation 2 Dec 20182 Dec 2018 There is a new dawn breaking in the field of parental alienation, especially in Europe where we continue the work of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners. This new…
Personal, Political and Partisan: The Toxic Extremities of Parental Alienation 24 Nov 2018 Working with children who reject a parent after family separation is the most toxic environment for any practitioner to be involved in. At times I find myself having to step…
Heroes and Villains: Avoiding the Split Narrative in the Experience of Being an Alienated Parent 20 Nov 2018 One of the biggest problems in coping with being rejected by your children is the manner in which you are forced into a mirroring of the good/bad splitting which is…
In the Service of Love 17 Nov 2018 We are coming close to the holiday season in the USA and for us in the UK the Christmas lights and sounds already begin to permeate the dark November nights.…
Splits in the Landscape of Living: Working with the Alienation Dynamic in Families 15 Nov 201815 Nov 2018 I continue my work with families affected by parental alienation and as I do so I find myself learning at the deepest level, about the splits in the internal landscape…
The Modern Day Witch Trials: Social Work and the Voice of the Child 9 Nov 20189 Nov 2018 Working as I do in the Family Court I come across what I call the Parallel Universe Principle (PUP) on many occasions. The PUP is that which is suffered by…
Singing From the Heart 1 Nov 2018 I was sent this yesterday, I listened to it this morning and felt it’s love and lightness might resonate with so many of you who come here regularly. Thanks Tom…
Re-Parenting the Alienated Child: Reconnecting to the Felt Sense Through Directive Therapy 31 Oct 201831 Oct 2018 This week I continue my work with young people who have suffered the pathologically split state of mind. These young people have reunited with a parent but continue to struggle…
It’s Child Abuse But Not as We Know It; When Healthy Parenting is Regarded as More Harmful than Abuse 29 Oct 201829 Oct 2018 The outcome of the CAFCASS Child Impact Assessment Framework is starting to show in the UK. This week news reaches us of cases where severe alienation is found but CAFCASS…
Specialist Workshops for Parents in the UK – Early Spring 2019 22 Oct 2018 Our workshop in London in December has almost sold out and so in response to the call for more workshops across the UK I am pleased to announce three further…
Understanding Parental Alienation Specialist Workshop for Parents UK 19 Oct 201821 Oct 2018 Our next workshop for parents in the UK will be held in central London on December 8th. This one day intensive workshop is focused upon helping parents to more deeply…
Self Defence and the Shut Down Reaction in Alienated Children and Rejected Parents 18 Oct 2018 I am currently working with a group of young people who suffered the pathological splitting reaction in their early teens and who have reunited with their parent in their early…
Fogging the Issue: CAFCASS and The High Conflict Pathway 14 Oct 201814 Oct 2018 This week CAFCASS have released their High Conflict Pathway, which is guidance for practitioners which includes what to do when children reject a parent. Originally entitled the High Conflict Pathway,…
International Standards of Practice with Families Affected by Parental Alienation 11 Oct 2018 There is a more than a little bit of disarray in the UK at the moment around the subject of parental alienation. From CAFCASS and Nagalro who are busy peddling…
Pass the Parcel: Trans-generational Haunting in Parental Alienation 10 Oct 201810 Oct 2018 This Be The Verse BY PHILIP LARKIN They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults…
Bridging the Gap: The Truth About Reunification Work 8 Oct 20188 Oct 2018 One of the startling features of reunification work is the way in which the child’s psychologically split state of mind is mirrored by the rejected parent. This is a problem,…
Training For Professionals in Europe 3 Oct 20183 Oct 2018 Ahead of the next meeting of EAPAP in Strasbourg in November we will be delivering a two day training for professionals which is approved by EAPAP. Anyone who is considering…
Regulating Practice and Protecting Parents and Children 2 Oct 2018 As we move into the Autumn months in the UK and Europe we are preparing for the next stage in our work to regulate practice in the field of parental…
Healing the Heart in Parental Alienation 29 Sep 201829 Sep 2018 One of the greatest difficulties when a child is being alienated is the manner in which the witnessing of the harm being done and the helplessness to prevent it, can…
All Those Things We Ever Were 24 Sep 201824 Sep 2018 Monday morning and I am on my rounds again. As I zig zag across the country, meeting family and friends between working with families affected by parental alienation, I am…
The Heart of the Matter: Learning from the Experts in Parental Alienation 17 Sep 201817 Sep 2018 Having spent five days in the company of the world leading authorities in parental alienation, I am reminded again of the depth of the scientific field and both the passion…
The Terrorised Child: The Ideological Distortion of Parenting 14 Sep 201814 Sep 2018 One of the themes which is bubbling up from the media reporting of parental alienation in recent weeks is the ideological viewpoint that children have the right to decide whether…
PA-UK News Update 12 Sep 201812 Sep 2018 Arriving back home from Switzerland last night I was woken by Nick to see the short piece on parental alienation on the BBC News at ten last night. Having fallen…
Clinical Reasoning, Cognitive Dissonance and the Unreliability of CAFCASS 8 Sep 20188 Sep 2018 Five days after the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners Conference in London, at which eighteen of the world’s leading authorities on parental alienation delivered what Sir Paul Coleridge, (a…
Internationally Recognised Training for Reunification of Alienated Children and Families – Tasmania 2018 4 Sep 20184 Sep 2018 For all enquiries please email office@familyseparationclinic, for bookings please email us for a booking form and an invoice will be sent to you. We have six places left for this…
EAPAP 2018 – Headlines from Day Two 1 Sep 2018 Day two of the EAPAP Conference was focused upon the mental health interventions which are seen to be effective around the world with alienated children and their families. In the…
