Backlash: Dragging PA Back into the Gender War 24 Jan 202024 Jan 2020 This week I have been reading research undertaken at Brunel University which purports to highlight the risk that abusive men are using parental alienation in the UK to gain access…
Everyday Trauma? Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation 18 Jan 2020 This is not the first time I have written a blog surrounded by a hundred or so screaming, sweaty children jumping on trampolines. I have been a grandmother for some years…
The Bridge Between Then and Now 12 Jan 202012 Jan 2020 Increasingly my work is focused upon the experience of parents and children who are reunited after a period during which a child has suffered from induced psychological splitting which is…
Treatment of Parental Alienation and the Family Court: A Critical Interlocking Partnership 8 Jan 2020 Our work takes us around the world in terms of training and awareness raising of the issue of parental alienation and the harm it does to children and their families.…
Shame, Blame and the Generation Game of Parental Alienation 5 Jan 2020 Working on the inside of families affected by parental alienation gives me a view like no other of the myriad of dynamics which are at play when a child's induced…
2020 Vision: A First Look From the Lighthouse Project 1 Jan 20201 Jan 2020 The Lighthouse Project is my name for the work we are doing in this next decade to bring a clear understanding of the harm that parental alienation does to the…
The Courage to Keep Love Alive 31 Dec 201931 Dec 2019 On the eve of a New Decade I want to share with you this beautiful piece which has just been sent to me by someone I worked with some time…
Restoring the Hierarchy: An End to Upside Down Thinking 29 Dec 20193 Jan 2020 Families affected by a child's induced psychological splitting which is popularly known as parental alienation, experience a catastrophic breakdown in the hierarchy of the generations. What this means in reality…
The Lighthouse Project: Bringing 2020 Vision to Families affected by Parental Alienation 22 Dec 2019 End of another year and end of a decade all at the same time. As in all end of decade years, this one has had its challenges in my world…
The Rhythm of Recovery: Healing Families Affected by Parental Alienation 14 Dec 201914 Dec 2019 However parental alienation is triggered in a family, the core dynamic which causes all of the symptoms which radiate outwards from the child is induced psychological splitting. Psychological splitting is…
Trainings and Workshops with the Family Separation Clinic 2020 9 Dec 2019 Later this week I will announce Training for Practitioners in Iceland. For now here is an introduction to our workshop for parents in Iceland on 1.2.2020. PARENTS WORKSHOP - REYKJAVÍK…
Healing the Lost Generations of Children of Parental Alienation 5 Dec 20196 Dec 2019 I have just moved house for about the twentieth time in my life and boy oh boy I hope I only have to do it once more before I die.…
Living in a World Without Windows in a House Without Doors 27 Nov 2019 I first wrote about growing up in a world without windows in 2017. The focus of this piece being the way that the alienated child grows up enmeshed with the…
EAPAP Conference 2020 24 Nov 201924 Nov 2019 The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners is a group which brings together the most senior and experienced practitioners in the field of parental alienation from Europe. This is…
Thanksgiving – Love and Loyalty to the Absent 23 Nov 201924 Nov 2019 It will soon be Thanksgiving in the USA. Having come to know small parts of this wonderful country over the past two years, I recognise that in my own intra-psychic…
Safe Hands 21 Nov 201921 Nov 2019 This is a short post to enable readers to discern the difference between someone who can help you with parental alienation and someone who thinks they can. The person who…
The Intention of Words: Listen Carefully 16 Nov 201916 Nov 2019 If you are a rejected parent listen carefully because what I am about to tell you is an important piece of surviving this nightmare of losing your living child. I…
Treating Induced Psychological Splitting in Alienated Children 14 Nov 201914 Nov 2019 A comment on here this week prompted me to write this piece which is based upon my work with children in residence transfer and adults alienated as children. I am…
Everyday Trauma: The Drama of the Alienated Child 11 Nov 201911 Nov 2019 “Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he had learned at a very young age to hate himself for…
In Their Footsteps: Trans-generational Trauma in Divorce and Separation 10 Nov 201910 Nov 2019 This week I continue my work with adults who suffered induced psychological splitting in childhood. These adults who 'chose' to reject a parent after separation, struggle today with the impact…
Paradigm Shift: Uncoupling Parental Alienation from Ideology 8 Nov 20198 Nov 2019 From Wikipedia A paradigm shift, a concept identified by the American physicist and philosopher Thomas Kuhn, is a fundamental change in the basic concepts and experimentalpractices of a scientific discipline.…
Harmonising Health: Integrated Practice with Families affected by a Child’s Induced Psychological Splitting 4 Nov 20194 Nov 2019 “Music brings a warm glow to my vision, thawing mind and muscle from their endless wintering.” ― Haruki Murakami The family affected by a child's induced psychological splitting is in…
Everyday Trauma: Induced Psychological Splitting in Children of Divorce and Separation 31 Oct 201931 Oct 2019 Understanding the impact of divorce and separation on children takes us down new pathways of understanding of induced psychological splitting, its manifestation in families and the every trauma it causes…
Moving the Furniture: Reorganising the Hierarchy in the Inter-Psychic Life of the Family Affected by Parental Alienation 28 Oct 201929 Oct 2019 interpsychic in British (ˌɪntəˈsaɪkɪk) adjective. psychology. occurring between two or more minds. When working therapeutically with families affected by parental alienation, what we are doing is assisting all family members…
Shadowlands: The Intra-Psychic Experience of the Alienated Child 21 Oct 2019 One of the manifestations of induced psychological splitting is the manner in which the child's capacity to recall events in a normal manner is interfered with. This is due to…
Keeping Your Wits About You: Wisdom for Alienated Parents 19 Oct 201919 Oct 2019 Being alienated is a deeply unpleasant experience. Watching your child behave in inexplicable ways, feeling that there is something unsaid and unresolved between you and knowing that whatever you…
Working with Parental Alienation in Europe: News updates 16 Oct 201916 Oct 2019 The work of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners gathers pace this week the speaker list is being drawn up for the third EAPAP conference in Zagreb on June…
Understanding Teenagers: Working with Splitting and Alienation in Adolescence 14 Oct 2019 Be kind to people you meet, you never know who might be raising teenagers... Research tells us that the most likely period of time for a child to become alienated…
Bringing Internationally Recognised Standards of Practice in Parental Alienation to Life 11 Oct 201912 Oct 2019 The third international conference of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners is announced in Zagreb, Croatia on 15/16 June 2020. Featuring key speakers on the topics of induced psychological…
Removing the Weakest Link: Building an Alienation Aware Workforce Around the Globe 7 Oct 2019 Last week I gave the John Cornwell Lecture to the Family Mediators Association Annual Conference. Introduced by Lord Justice Mostyn, I spoke for an hour about the harm that induced…
Ignored and Invisible No Longer: Recognising and Meeting the Needs of Alienated Children and Families 28 Sep 2019 Yesterday, the 'collective memo of concern' authored by Linda Neilson and signed by people opposed to parental alienation being included in the ICD-11, was reposted on that site in…
Seeing the Wood by Looking at Trees: Learning the Language of the Alienated Child 19 Sep 201919 Sep 2019 The counter-intuitive nature of parental alienation is caused by the child being induced to use psychological splitting as a defence. Many researchers have identified psychological splitting the core defence in…
The Principles and Protocols of Practice with Induced Psychological Splitting After Divorce (AKA Parental Alienation) 17 Sep 201921 Sep 2019 We are back in London after delivering training to eleven experienced practitioners in the USA. During this time away it was also a real pleasure to spend time with our…
Growing the Field: Developing Understanding and Practice with Alienated Children and Families Around the World 7 Sep 2019 We are in the USA this week preparing to train a group of psychologists and psychotherapists to use the FSC protocols and principles of assessment, differentiation and intervention in cases…
Shaping Up in the World of Parental Alienation 28 Aug 201928 Aug 2019 The world of parental alienation is a world which is divided in a binary manner. There are no shades of grey. Everything about parental alienation is good/bad, right/wrong, black/white and…
Recovery Routes for Families Affected by a Child’s Induced Psychological Splitting (AKA Parental Alienation) 19 Aug 2019 In my podcast for Family Access I discussed the route that a child takes into psychological splitting when trans-generational trauma repetition is at play. This is one scenario seen when…
Differentiating Causal Factors in Parental Alienation 12 Aug 2019 Those who listened to the call with Family Access last weekend will have heard me talking about transgenerational haunting and the psychoanalytical research on the way that trauma is transmitted…
Pathways to Progress: Developing Ethical Practice with Alienated Children and Families 10 Aug 201910 Aug 2019 We are back in London briefly after our trip to Israel where we trained nineteen practitioners at the Western Galilee College. Coming up next is our trip to the USA…
Meeting of the Board of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners: Switzerland 2019 3 Aug 20193 Aug 2019 The Board of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners met in St Moritz this week. On the agenda were the principles and protocols of practice with families affected by…
Transgenerational Narratives in Parental Alienation 30 Jul 2019 In 2013 I began work to understand how trans-generational haunting plays a role in some cases of parental alienation. You can read some of what I wrote about it back…
