Removal from Harm – The Trigger for Integration of Splitting in Parental Alienation 14 Apr 201914 Apr 2019 I work with families affected by the infantile defence of psychological splitting, this is the core wound experienced in parental alienation. As I continue on my journey, I understand that…
Evidence from a Decade of Reuniting Alienated Children and Parents in the UK 10 Apr 201910 Apr 2019 It is a decade since I worked with Thomas Moore to assist in reuniting him with his son after many years apart. You can read about his journey and our…
The Vampire Diaries: Transgenerational Haunting in Parental Alienation 7 Apr 20197 Apr 2019 I have been working for some time now on a new therapeutic approach with families affected by parental alienation which has its roots in trans-generational family therapy as developed by…
The View From The Mountain: A Decade of Working with PA in the UK 26 Mar 201926 Mar 2019 Wordpress congratulated me today on a decade of blogging. I knew it was around this time I sat down to write my first blog on the subject of parental alienation,…
Keeping Your Wits About You: Critical Thinking for Alienated Parents 24 Mar 2019 If you can keep your wits about you while all others are losing theirs, and blaming you. The world will be yours and everything in it, what's more, you'll be…
PA News Worldwide -PASG2019 19 Mar 2019 PARENTAL ALIENATION STUDY GROUP THIRD INTERNATIONAL CONFERENCE Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA — September 12–14, 2019 Mark your calendars for September 12–14, 2019. Preparations are underway for PASG2019, the third annual conference of…
Question Everything 17 Mar 201917 Mar 2019 I carry with me a piece of advice given to me at school by my history teacher. It is one of my most treasured possessions - the exhortation to ‘question…
Daddy’s Girl and Mummy’s World: The Story of Covert Emotional Incest 10 Mar 2019 Once upon a time there was a little girl, her daddy called her his little princess. Daddy took his little princess everywhere with him, he was so proud of his…
Understanding Parental Alienation Workshop for Parents in Edinburgh 7 Mar 20197 Mar 2019 Our Edinburgh Workshop is filling up and we are putting the finishing touches to a day packed with learning and information. Our workshops are always lively experiences which aim to…
When Children are in Charge: Rebuilding The Family Hierarchy in Treatment of Parental Alienation 6 Mar 2019 One of the biggest problems which we face when working with parental alienation is the lack of understanding in professionals around the family of the need for the rebuilding of…
Parental Alienation and the High Conflict Myth 3 Mar 20193 Mar 2019 A conflict, by definition, must involve two or more sides (unless it is within you). Therefore if parental alienation is about high conflict divorce it must mean that both of you…
Developing Relational Networks in Europe 28 Feb 2019 This week we have been in Antwerp where we delivered two lectures to Judges and Advocates from Belgium and Holland at the Het Huis Symposium on complex divorce. Whilst Britain…
Objects in the Rear View Mirror 24 Feb 201924 Feb 2019 As I continue with my research alongside my therapeutic work with families, I am building a new approach to working with families affected by parental alienation which combines trans-generational psychotherapy…
What’s in a Name? 21 Feb 201921 Feb 2019 ''That which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet." William Shakespeare - Romeo and Juliet The term parental alienation is increasingly coming to public consciousness,…
Parental Alienation News Europe 19 Feb 20199 Apr 2019 Leading the Way in Romania The interdisciplinary approach of litigation with minor in cases of Parental Alienation Conference -16-17 of May 2019 - Bucharest, Romania. Bucharest Tribunal together with an…
Parental Alienation on Stage in London 16 Feb 2019 Wilderness is a play about parental alienation written by Kellie Smith whose experience in writing for performance is extensive and impressive. Next month in London, the Hampstead Theatre in London will…
Solving Parental Alienation With The Legal and Mental Health Interlock 15 Feb 2019 Resolving cases of parental alienation requires the interlocking interventions of the family court and mental health. Those of us who do this work know that this is a given and…
Living on the Edge: The ‘Non Alienating’ Alienator 12 Feb 201912 Feb 2019 There are some extraordinarily difficult relational scenarios within the overall group of families which are affected by parental alienation, one of the most difficult being the ‘non alienating’ alienating parent.…
Training and Development Group 2019 8 Feb 2019 We are convening our 2019 Training and Development Group for professionals in the helping therapies who would like to develop their practice in the field of parental alienation. This is…
Ghosts of the Unremembered Past 4 Feb 20194 Feb 2019 “We shall not cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started And know the place for the first time. Through the…
Digging up the Feminist Past to Develop a Family Focused Future 27 Jan 201927 Jan 2019 This week I am continuing work on the formation of therapeutic approaches to working with families affected by parental alienation, an ongoing project of mine which examines three things -…
Understanding The Triangulating Alienated Child 21 Jan 201921 Jan 2019 One of the most difficult people to understand in the alienation drama is the triangulating alienated child. This child is one I have come to know as the proxy alienator,…
The Hierarchical Flow of Living 18 Jan 2019 Avoid providing material for the drama that is always stretched tight between parents and children; it uses up much of the children’s strength and wastes the love of the elders,…
Lighting the Lamps: Giving Voice to Those Who Walk in the Wasteland 11 Jan 201912 Jan 2019 Who is the third who walks always beside you? When I count, there are only you and I together But when I look ahead up the white road There is…
Your Heart in Their Hands: Critical Thinking for Alienated Parents 30 Dec 2018 As an alienated parent you are in a vulnerable place psychologically. Alienation forces you to maladapt your behaviours just as your child has been forced to. It also puts you…
Betwixt and Between: The Liminal Spaces in Parental Alienation 28 Dec 2018 “At the still point of the turning world. Neither flesh nor fleshless; Neither from nor towards; at the still point, there the dance is, But neither arrest nor movement. And…
Lights of Love for all of the Lost Ones 20 Dec 2018 It is the last day of the working year for the Family Separation Clinic and as I begin to put the files away and seal the notebooks up, at the…
Letters Home to Your Children’s Heart 13 Dec 201813 Dec 2018 This is the time of year when we all want to go home. Even if our childhood home no longer exists, the idea of going home and finding our place…
It’s the Most Difficult Time of the Year 7 Dec 2018 We are coming up to Christmas. In London the lights are twinkling all around us and the music floating out of the shop doorways reminds me of my own childhood…
No More Generic Therapy for Parental Alienation 2 Dec 20182 Dec 2018 There is a new dawn breaking in the field of parental alienation, especially in Europe where we continue the work of the European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners. This new…
Personal, Political and Partisan: The Toxic Extremities of Parental Alienation 24 Nov 2018 Working with children who reject a parent after family separation is the most toxic environment for any practitioner to be involved in. At times I find myself having to step…
Heroes and Villains: Avoiding the Split Narrative in the Experience of Being an Alienated Parent 20 Nov 2018 One of the biggest problems in coping with being rejected by your children is the manner in which you are forced into a mirroring of the good/bad splitting which is…
In the Service of Love 17 Nov 2018 We are coming close to the holiday season in the USA and for us in the UK the Christmas lights and sounds already begin to permeate the dark November nights.…
Splits in the Landscape of Living: Working with the Alienation Dynamic in Families 15 Nov 201815 Nov 2018 I continue my work with families affected by parental alienation and as I do so I find myself learning at the deepest level, about the splits in the internal landscape…
The Modern Day Witch Trials: Social Work and the Voice of the Child 9 Nov 20189 Nov 2018 Working as I do in the Family Court I come across what I call the Parallel Universe Principle (PUP) on many occasions. The PUP is that which is suffered by…
Singing From the Heart 1 Nov 2018 I was sent this yesterday, I listened to it this morning and felt it’s love and lightness might resonate with so many of you who come here regularly. Thanks Tom…
Re-Parenting the Alienated Child: Reconnecting to the Felt Sense Through Directive Therapy 31 Oct 201831 Oct 2018 This week I continue my work with young people who have suffered the pathologically split state of mind. These young people have reunited with a parent but continue to struggle…
It’s Child Abuse But Not as We Know It; When Healthy Parenting is Regarded as More Harmful than Abuse 29 Oct 201829 Oct 2018 The outcome of the CAFCASS Child Impact Assessment Framework is starting to show in the UK. This week news reaches us of cases where severe alienation is found but CAFCASS…
Specialist Workshops for Parents in the UK – Early Spring 2019 22 Oct 2018 Our workshop in London in December has almost sold out and so in response to the call for more workshops across the UK I am pleased to announce three further…
Understanding Parental Alienation Specialist Workshop for Parents UK 19 Oct 201821 Oct 2018 Our next workshop for parents in the UK will be held in central London on December 8th. This one day intensive workshop is focused upon helping parents to more deeply…
