I am not going to argue with Dr Childress or his fans on this blog. End of.
Doc C didn’t post my responses to his last round of knee jerk reactions to my posts and so as far as I am concerned we are just not going there on this blog either.
The idea that separation protocols are not used where they are indicated at the Clinic is an utter nonsense as Doc C would understand if he bothered to pick up the phone and call me. Dorcy and I are communicating, we understand each other, all Doc C has to do is find out what we do and how we do it and he too would understand that we are not on opposite sides theoretically though we are on the opposite side of the pond geographically and legislatively.
UK interventions which are working are what I am talking about on this blog and here’s the thing – they are working and they are working using the differentiation routes which are developed and used by practitioners all around the world. I know they are working because I not only write about parental alienation, I am the person at the Clinic who goes and does the work of removing the children from the parent when we recommend it and the court decides it should happen. Sometimes I wonder if Doc C and his fans wilfully ignore that fact. Similarly, I wonder whether there has been a deliberate ignoring of the fact that the first case I wrote about in my last post was about the removal of the children. A removal which I undertook and worked through carefully to the successful conclusion. All that seems to be ignored in favour of cherry picking and knee jerk reacting to suit a particular agenda.
And here’s the other thing – not all alienation is caused by personality disordered parents. And that’s all there is to it. My last post wasn’t a dig at Doc C it wasn’t a scientific study and it wasn’t a claim that I don’t support (or in fact carry out) protective separations.
And that Doc C and fans, is all there is to it really.
As you were.
Reading this and other comments about Dr Childress makes me feel so uncomfortable. I didn’t think I had any struggles with my parents arguing before they divorced but this feeling is familiar so perhaps I did.
Your last post helped me immensely. I wondered if you would be able to provide more examples of what would be a target parents contribution to rejection, making a case hybrid. Is it just things that the child would definitely be aware of, such as withdrawing from contact, or could it be that the target parent has a poor communication style (pent up frustration sounding like an attack?) with the alienating parent?
Yes I am sorry for that and I think Doc C and I should remember that our spats create more than a touch of transference when we get into this so I am sorry that this has disturbed you. Do not worry, we are talking through a third party and there is humour in that so its only a storm in another one of our across the pond tea cups.
I will write more in response to your questions later today.
Thank you, on both counts. It’s refreshing to receive kindness and to see someone taking ownership of their actions – I’d almost forgotten what that felt like, having been in these murky waters for so long.
I was interested to see a couple of posts back about the target parent often blaming themselves “it must be something I’ve done” and thought it could be fairly easy for that parent to assume it’s a hybrid case and keep trying to fix things which presumably if it’s a pure case is at best going to prolong the pain for the child and at worst make the pain worse. I consider this to be even more so where there is still some contact going on but the reactions and resistance getting stronger.
I really admire the work you do. I’ve been supporting for a good few years and the vicarious trauma is probably my biggest struggle.
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I find your dedication and transparency refreshing. Thank you for your work and blog.
I am a target parent in the U.S. My severely-alienated child and I suffered prejudiced-and-unskilled mental-health professionals, attorneys and judges. Your insights and successes engender hope.