In the Service of Love

We are coming close to the holiday season in the USA and for us in the UK the Christmas lights and sounds already begin to permeate the dark November nights.

In my work with families across the world I experience so much of the suffering which the cruel phenomenon of parental alienation causes.  Sometimes I see it so up close and personal I am stunned by the terrorism of the heart which it causes.

And at other times, when the channels are unblocked and the relational flow is underway again, I see that all of this work we are doing is in the service of love and the essential and enduring nature of the familial relationships which make us who we are.

In the service of love I see so much shame, so much terror and so much pain caused by alienation.

Healing that and allowing the love to flow back in is what our work is all about.

And when it happens – this is the feeling which comes.  A feeling which you all deserve.



For every parent and grandparent, family member and friend who is having to endure the pain of separation from a child who has gone missing in your life.

I send my love, my support and my commitment to work to bring greater awareness and resolution to the suffering you endure.

So that you too can dance in the flow again and sleep soundly at night knowing your loved ones are safe.

As we roll around again to holiday season, know that we are here, working night and day to make things change for as many as possible, as quickly as possible.

You are not alone.


12 thoughts on “In the Service of Love”

  1. I suffer daily as a result of not seeing my children for five and a half years..I look forward to seeing a change in the law regarding parental alienation and unfair separation..thank you.


  2. Seems that most of the parents that do the alienating have some sort of cluster B disorder.
    After continueos research it seems it’s not a disorder at all. It seems that it is society induced and programed.
    How can they say that parental alienation is junk science when all the information is all over the internet and I am clearly experiencing it.
    It’s all about money and corruption.
    Most are never heard in family court. No proof gets put on the table. The courts keep the disorder fighting in order to continue making the money.
    At the cost of our children.


  3. I’ve just sent an email to my grandchild now 16 years old. I’m still the only contact on his father’s side. The damage is done. My grandchild cost me the relationship with my son, we fell out, because I went to see him.
    I will never forgive the Spanish Government for their part.
    The guilt and the anger, the destruction and the emotional pain to a child. This will be a part of his life forever!
    It’s so easy to destroy lives.


  4. You are writing about my life. Living in the US the system knows nothing about this issue and my children are suffering the consequences. My heart is breaking daily.


    1. Hello Kim, I know with different stages the outcome can vary. It’s a bit like EU Law it varies quite a lot sometimes.


  5. Thank you Karen. It is at this time of year that the pain is at it’s most acute – although it is never other than overwhelming. I have fought really hard recently to try (once again) to come to terms with the reality – to think first and foremost of my daughters and to focus on doing what little I can for them, whilst we remain parted . I will be completely alone all over the Christmas and New Year period, as I was last year. It is very, very hard. Your words are helpful.


  6. Thank you Karen, I don’t need to tell you it never gets any easier!
    Wish I cld sleep til it’s all over but I have my daughter to think of who is with me, my son will receive his gifts as usual from me, via his little sister! Their daddy has a clue the damage he has done…..

    Best wishes to you and yours!
    Frankie x


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