The Unbearable Rightness of Reason

To those who have written to me in the belief that I have somehow joined with Childress on his Facebook page, I am sorry to disappoint you but I haven’t and I won’t be joining with Dr Childress now or at anytime in the future.

Until or unless Dr Childress is able to recognise that his model of work is not the only solution to the problem and until he is able to acknowledge the work of all of the other people in the world who give their time and energy to finding solutions to the problem of parental alienation, professional to professional discussion with him is futile.


A demagogue or rabble-rouser is a leader in a democracy who gains popularity by exploiting prejudice and ignorance among the common people, whipping up the passions of the crowd and shutting down reasoned deliberation.


A group of demagogues.

If one reads blogs or face book,  one would be forgiven for thinking that only two people exist in the world of parental alienation, Childress and Woodall.

In the world of alienated parents this is an unfortunate outcome because it means that they are prevented from knowing and hearing about all of the people who do this work and who have done this work over many decades.

Alienated parents need information.  They need help, guidance and advice and it is out there in bucket loads for them to access.  There are so many people working in this field, people who do so selflessly and tirelessly, that to see parents forced into a cult-de-sac of being forced to believe that there is only one of two choices is nothing short of tragic.

Alienated parents are vulnerable and they urgently need clear and lucid guidance on their own situation. What they do not need is to be led to believe that there is a choice to be made between the ‘right’ way and the ‘wrong’ way. Life is confusing and painful enough for alienated parents and their families, they need access to all of the literature, all of the knowledge and most of all, how to become alienation aware with a clear mindset which allows them to make the right choices for their children.

The cacophony of other parents chanting for their leader is simply wrong in the lives of alienated parents and it denies access to the rich and varied sources of help and support which abound in this field.

I for one am heartily tired of this division of two writers into good and bad and the belief which is promulgated that writers of blogs can somehow save the world from parental alienation.  It is a nonsense. It is the result of the priming of split thinking in the minds of hurt and vulnerable parents and it results not in furthering the knowledge about what works for families but in stasis.

Writers of blogs are not the saviours of the universe no matter how much we like to believe our writing is important to people.  The people who are doing the work of furthering the academic study, the people who are working with families and standing in the full force of the negative transference that brings and the people who are out there building structures and strategies for change are the people who will change this world for the better.

So today, as the dust settles, let’s start thinking carefully and rationally about this issue.

There are people who are taking the time to write peer reviewed papers and books academically to build upon the work of their colleagues.

People who are building new strategies to bring the issue of parental alienation into public consciousness.

People who are working with families today and everyday.

All of whom contribute so much more to this field than blogging and all of whom understand the issues just as deeply and feel the urgent need for change just as powerfully.

The power to change this world is not in the hands of two people who write blogs.  It is in the hands of many and now is time to recognise this.

The world is changing, there is increasing knowledge about parental alienation and this is a critical year in which the work of so many people around the world will be seen and heard.

Stop, look and listen.

Open your mind.

I want to direct people’s attention today to the huge numbers of people around the world who are working towards solutions to this deeply painful and corrosive problem.  

There are four major conferences tackling parental alienation around the world this year, all of which have drawn together key legal and mental health professionals to push for change.

Simply Parent Conference – June 29th – Fort Collins USA.

PASG2018 – August 24/25 – Stockhom, Sweden.

EAPAP Conference – August 30/31st – London, England.

EMMF Conference – October – Tasmania – Details to be announced.

Work is being done academically to build scientific knowledge about parental alienation by Bill Bernet and colleagues from PASG.

Writing and research continues by Amy Baker and colleagues.

Alongside these conferences, work is ongoing to build strategic change to push parental alienation into the public consciousness by Simply Parent.

Standards of practice with alienated children and their families and training which certifies  those standards are being curated by the Family Separation Clinic.

And the ICD 11 will include parental alienation in it for the first time.


  1. I have come to the conclusion that these people (Childress et al) are unreachable. I really think blocking them out and not reading the FB sites and not responding to them as thinking people is the way to go. Sorry you are the target Karen. It is just ridiculous! When are you coming to California? Lynn Steinberg

    Sent from my iPhone



    1. Hi Lynn, we will be in California in early July. I agree with all that you say.

      I see it clearly for what it is and how it happens. I feel sad for the parents who are influenced by it but the boundaries must be drawn.

      As long as the threats and abuse and emails around the world stop, I will be content to leave the church of the Childress mind to do whatever it wishes to do.

      Very best to you



  2. You’re Multidimensional Karen, he is on a narrow one track approach which isn’t appropriate for the majority of situations.

    You have tried to talk, communicate, debate with him. He sees and hears the invitation yet does not take its up and continues to denigrate undermine and try to destroy you, it is exactly the behavior of an alienator…. thank God he hasn’t got control over your children and hitting them while you stand helpless(apart from escalating conflict with the threat of physical annihilation of both the alienator and yourself and praying your loved ones don’t become collateral damage) while those tasked with helping don’t even think his influence and malevolence is relevant and direct all the blame and shame your way.

    Mutidiensional. We are. Singular he is… and in the wrong very wrong, even when we resist polarising things further, sometimes things just are black and white with no shades or inbetween.

    Some times someone is just plainly bang put of order and wrong.

    In time Karen he will choke on his own aspertions and projection.

    Continue onwards. He can’t keep up with the progress you make as he not only stands still but goes backwards,he is in the beginnings of decay, you are blossomimg

    Take note of Wilhelms translation of the lines associated with book of changes, 3.Difficulty in the beginning.

    yee jing………. I think it ought to be called the yeeeeehaaa jing if any other translation than Wilhelms. It’s a little archaic at times, very triggering for many a snowflake I imagine, but none the less, one of the most profound books I’ve ever come across, CG Jung writes a foreword for it.

    Keep on keeping on, you’re keeping on in the right way,

    He will shortly begin sounding very hollow. An empty can rattles the most. Xxxx


  3. Bless you Carl G, you are one of the brightest stars in the universe. I can take anything thrown at me when I think of what you and your boy went through. Anything at all. x


  4. Those of us who are able to integrate all of the research from the many researchers and clinicians in this field will continue to do so. You are right–you are not one of the two–you are one of the MANY who contribute (but perhaps more attacked due to your prolific blog). One thing I have noticed in this field is that it does take a level of cognitive complexity to truly grasp the nuances in the dynamics of the family in the grips of parental alienation. Many practitioners lack that cognitive complexity, and I am sure most victimized parents wish for a more simplistic solution because they are weary from the fight.


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