Surviving the Trauma: Staying Safe and Sane as Parent in the Rejected Position

Monday 30 October 2023, 6pm – 8pm UK time

Drawing upon their combined experience of over twenty years in direct practice with families where children align and reject, Karen and Nick Woodall’s work demonstrates that at the heart of this family trauma, is a child who has been overwhelmed by inter-personal dynamics in a relationship with a parent using coercive control and other harmful behaviours. As such, the parent in the rejected position is not a harmful parent but someone who is a bystander as this trauma emerges in the child, eventually becoming the recipient of the blame for what has happened when in fact they have been helpless to prevent it and helpless to protect the child from it.

Working with therapeutic parenting as a core strategy which is taught to parents in the rejected position, Karen and Nick Woodall have pioneered a new approach to helping parents to both understand what is happening to their children and help them to heal from the disorganised attachment patterns which are triggered by this relational trauma. Assisting parents to understand that this family drama begins with the child entering into traumatic splitting, which ripples outwards and engulfs the whole family, brings new hope to parents affected by, what has up until now, been a frightening and overwhelming experience.

This seminar aims to provide an introduction to surviving the trauma of being a parent in the rejected position and walk parents through the concepts of stabilising and anchoring in preparation for helping their children when the time is right. In doing so, we aim to give help and hope to a unrecognised and under-served group of traumatised families and in turn raise funds for another group of traumatised people who are homeless and/or trafficked.

Parents in the rejected position hold the missing piece of the jigsaw for children affected by induced psychological splitting in divorce and separation, this seminar introduces you to how to survive the unsurvivable and reach the top of the mountain of healing in readiness to help and heal your children. Come prepared to learn about how being a parent in the rejected position causes trauma but also how understanding and overcoming that, can provide children with the health and wellbeing which this relational trauma steals from them.

What you will learn

Why children align and reject

What the alignment with a parent really means

How being a parent in the rejected position causes a trauma reaction

How to cope with that trauma reaction

Strategies for coping and healing over time

How to help others to understand what is happening

This event is a fundraiser for the Salvation Army’s work with those affected by homelessness and people trafficking.

To check your local start time, please click the following link, ensure ‘Date’ is selected, and enter 18:00 – 2023-10-30 – London in the right-hand boxes, here: https://dateful.com/time-zone-converter

Attendance by minimum donation of £30.00. Please consider giving more if you are able.

What Nick is doing to raise funds for the Salvation Army

Nick climbs mountains. Last year he climbed Mount Toubkal in Morocco and in doing so raised over three thousand pounds for the work of the Salvation Army. This year he has been climbing mountains in Crete, Italy and Switzerland, in preparation for his next fundraising challenge.

In November, Nick will be travelling to Nepal for an 18 day trek to Everest Base Camp and the summit of Kala Patthar (5,545m) at the foot of Mt. Everest.

In doing so, he will be raising more funds for the Salvation Army’s work with homeless people and the victims of human trafficking.

About the Salvation Army

The Salvation Army meets the immediate needs of people who have to sleep rough or on the streets, offering emergency accommodation to people who have nowhere else to stay. In support of the victims of human trafficking, the Salvation Army has developed community based Modern Slavery Hubs which provide survivors of modern slavery with a link to their local community and signposting to the range of available support they may need.

100% of any donations, plus any Gift Aid, goes directly to the Salvation Army and will help them to continue this vital work.

We invite you to join us at this fundraising event which will focus on the trauma experienced by rejected parents and offer practical strategies to help you stay safe and stay sane.

To join us on this seminar please follow these instructions –

PLEASE DONATE HERE:
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1. make a minimum donation of £30.00/$35 (please consider donating more, if you are able).

2. ensure that you include your name (or alias, if you would rather remain anonymous) when you make your donation.

3. email info@familyseparationclinic.co.uk with details of:

• the name you’ve made the donation under
• the date you made the donation, and
• the amount you donated.

We will then send you a link for the seminar (please remember to check your junk folders if you are unable to find this email).

Please note: 100% of your donation will go directly to the Salvation Army. However, donations are made through the JustGiving website. JustGiving offer this service free to charities but ask donors for a contribution to their running costs; this defaults to 15%. You do not need to accept this amount and, if you prefer, can change to a lower contribution or even £0.00.

Please consider adding Gift Aid. Donating through Gift Aid means the Salvation Army can claim an extra 25p for every £1 you give and it will not cost you a penny extra.

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Thank you so much for your support