The Good/Bad Burden in Parental Alienation 15 Feb 201815 Feb 2018 There is a plethora of burdens for alienated parents to carry and many ways that these burdens are borne by those who are suffering. One of the heaviest burdens is…
Inarticulate Speech of The Heart 13 Feb 201813 Feb 2018 Those readers who are Van Morrison fans will recognise this as one of his song titles and I am indebted to him for the creation of the sentence which headlines…
Knowing is Not Enough 11 Feb 201811 Feb 2018 There is a proliferation of parental alienation experts in the UK at the moment, they seem to be popping up like mushrooms in a dark damp field. Looking a bit…
Practitioner Training Opportunities 2018 5 Feb 20185 Feb 2018 2018 is going to be a very important year for the work we do to help children affected by parental alienation all over the world. The Family Separation Clinic is…
Sitting with sadness 1 Feb 2018 I first came across the Mindful Gardner Blog last week and was entranced by the pleasure of the pictures, the words and the concepts of simply being with the natural…
Laying Down the Right/Wrong Burden 27 Jan 201827 Jan 2018 One of the hardest things for a parent whose child has completely rejected them is to lay down the right/wrong burden. This burden, which is placed upon the back of…
Moving Upstream 23 Jan 20184 Feb 2018 One of the ways that we work at the Family Separation Clinic is to move upstream as much as we possibly can, to help parents whose children are struggling with…
The Heart of The Matter: The Power and Control Variable in Parental Alienation 22 Jan 2018 Following on from the last post in which we explored the variables of location, situation and transition, this post looks at the variable of power and control, which in parental…
Location, Situation and Transition : The Variables In Parental Alienation 20 Jan 201823 Jan 2018 The idea that children only become alienated through the actions of a narcissistic parent acting against the other is not borne out in the evidence from our practice with alienation…
A Retreat For Alienated Mothers – Somerset UK – June 2018 16 Jan 201816 Jan 2018 Building on our support for alienated parents, we are launching our alienated mothers retreats this summer in Somerset, England. In addition, we will also be running this retreat for mothers…
The Greatest Love of All 13 Jan 2018 This back to work week has been a joyous occasion for me as news reaches us of reunifications and reconnections between children and their loved parents and families, and we…
Here Comes Dandlebear 12 Jan 2018 As part of our work with children who are affected by family separation and/or at risk of alienation, we have brought the Dandlebear stories to life on Kindle. There are…
I’m OK, You’re not OK – it’s not ok in PA 11 Jan 2018 The world of parental alienation is a binary world, which means that in all sides of the issue in the family affected, there are divisions and schisms into one or…
Lamp Lighting: Helping Alienated Children to Find Their Way Home. 6 Jan 20186 Jan 2018 Second post of 2018 and I write from our annual retreat where we go to build our resilience for our onward journey with alienated children and their families. As a…
Starting as We Mean to Go On: Setting the Scene 2018 1 Jan 20181 Jan 2018 This is a going to be a big year in terms of the raising to consciousness of parental alienation around the world. In the UK, where we will hold the…
In the Windmills of Your Mind 30 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 Like a circle in a spiral Like a wheel within a wheel Never ending or beginning On an ever spinning reel Like a snowball down a mountain Or a carnival…
Move Closer: Lessons For Those Seriously Interested in PA-UK 28 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 We are fast approaching the end of 2017 and I thought it might be useful to round up the PA news in the UK, ahead of what is going to…
Lighthouses of Love 24 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 Christmas Eve is the hardest time of the year for so many families, the day when children and lost loved ones are close in our hearts and minds and missing…
The Haunting of the Alienated Child 19 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 I have been reading Oliver James's book 'Not in Your Genes' this week and in doing so have found myself uncovering another layer of understanding of what it means to…
The Place Where the Green Grasses Grow 15 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 I work with alienated children of all ages and have done so for a long time now. I know the landscape in which alienated children live very well. What I…
Moving Upstream – London Conference on Parental Alienation 2018 – Open for Bookings 13 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners opens its conference booking today. Headline speakers include leading researcher and writer Amy J.L.Baker PhD. Brian Ludmer from Ludmer Law in Canada, Professor…
Love Lies Bleeding: Trauma and Loss in the Post Separation Landscape 10 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 Being a veteran in the post separation landscape (I first began work in this field in 1991), I find myself again and again returning to the same places in my…
The Drama of Being a Social Worker: Counter Transference in The Post Separation Landscape 9 Dec 20171 Jan 2018 In the United Kingdom the welfare threshold is a test which is applied to determine whether a child is suffering from or is likely to suffer from significant harm in…
2018 Training Opportunities 4 Dec 201723 Jan 2018 We are launching our 2018 professionals training programme early due to the number of requests about this in recent weeks. The following trainings are available in early March and are…
Let The Love Flow – PA-UK 2018 3 Dec 201723 Jan 2018 Yesterday we worked with a group of forty parents in London, one of whom had travelled from Croatia to be with us. Amongst our group were two professionals who work…
Practicing, Protecting and Promoting. Introducing The European Association of Parental Alienation Practitioners 29 Nov 20171 Jan 2018 We are just back from Holland where we training another group of practitioners to work with the differentiation model of the Family Separation Clinic in parental alienation cases. This brings…
Shining Lights 26 Nov 201713 Jan 2018 Our training in Holland continues and we have been deep in the forest today examining the role of personality disorder in pure cases of alienation and the particular configurations seen…
Fake News and Fabrications 25 Nov 201716 Mar 2018 I am in Holland today, training a group of practitioners to understand and work with parental alienation. As I do so, I am also receiving messages from people who are…
Help at Holiday Times 23 Nov 201723 Nov 2017 Today is thanksgiving in the USA. I made this for parents there and delivered it earlier this week. I thought it might be helpful for all of my readers. I…
The Battle for Britain’s Alienated Children (The Hybrid Myth) 22 Nov 201722 Nov 2017 Breaking down the risks ahead for parents and children affected by parental alienation in the UK, we looked earlier this week at the high conflict myth. The notion that PA…
The Battle for Britain’s Alienated Children (The High Conflict Myth). 20 Nov 201720 Nov 2017 Those of you reading the news in the UK over the past few days, would be forgiven for thinking that a breakthrough was occurring here. Before you break out the…
Beware of False Prophets 18 Nov 201719 Nov 2017 You heard it here first folks, the dumbing down of parental alienation has already begun in the UK, with the announcement in the Guardian yesterday that CAFCASS are trialling 'intense…
Children of The Revolution (UK) 16 Nov 201716 Nov 2017 There is a revolution coming in the UK in terms of the recognition that a child's complete rejection of a parent is a maladaptive response to the family drama of…
The Battle for Britain (2) 13 Nov 201713 Nov 2017 In a world which is rapidly waking up to the reality of parental alienation, it is interesting to take a look around the UK at what is going on in…
Upside Down and Back to Front 12 Nov 201713 Nov 2017 I am currently working on a series of pieces for parents which are focused on how to remain sane as an alienated parent. In doing so I find myself back…
PASG 2017 – Video Presentations 11 Nov 201712 Nov 2017 The following sample presentations on You Tube are all from PASG 2017 and showcase all of the work which is going on around the world to develop and deliver the…
The Dimly Lit World of the Alienated Child 8 Nov 20178 Nov 2017 I was asked a question recently about how one can recover as an alienated child. Clearly the person asking the question was beginning the process of working through the reasons…
The Ghosts of All Possible Pasts 5 Nov 2017 “All happy families resemble one another, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way” Anna Karenina - Tolstoi This weekend I am spending my last couple of days in…
The Mouse Who Lived at Myrtle Street 27 Oct 2017 Myrtle Mouse lived on the top floor of a long tall house on Myrtle Street. Was she called Myrtle because of the street she lived on, or was the street…
Back to Basics 25 Oct 2017 We are with our US training group today, taking the first step in a year long journey to understanding and working with alienated children and their families. As I get…
